Soft answers vs. grevious words

Proverbs 15:1

"A soft answer turneth away wrath:but grevious words stir up anger."

Such a simple,short verse that says so much.I have seen it proven true to many times to even count.I know how I feel when people use "grevious words" with me and I know how my children feel when I use "grevious words" with them.

I so badly want to raise my children with the right attitudes.I don't want them to be angry,frustrated and impatient.It doesn't make a whole lot of sense to get angry with them,use grevious words (or tones) and then turn around and correct them for being angry and impatient.That simply can't go on.We are stopping it around here.Our children are getting older and we are finding that lo and behold,while we have been teaching them so many good and godly things,we have also taught them our bad habits! Aren't the Lord's ways amazing? He blesses young,ignorant couples with children and while they train their children,HE uses the children to open the parents eyes on an unlimited amount of things that they need to change.So parents and children are learning together but there is one other wonderful thing that he has done.He instills this blind,forgiving love in children towards their parents.A love that says "Mamma,you are the best mother in the world" and "Mamma! You don't EVER treat us bad!" . My prayer and hope is that when my children lose the rose colored glasses that they will have received so much love and care from us that they will easily forgive our faults,knowing that we truly did devote our lives to them,that raising them in a godly home was our biggest priority and that we love them more than anything else in this world.

This is my verse for the day.I am going to concentrate on speaking softly.It works,of that I am positive.It has immediate effects on everyone.It is actually pretty amazing but I shouldn't be surprised as God's ways are perfect.I want to get them engraved into my heart and mind more and more and more.

Eliminating anger.

My response is my responsibility,my response is my responsibility,my response is my responsibility...............................

I have been trying to memorize those words and keep them in my head.I recently read them in a book called "Love and Respect" and boy,it is quite hard to remember when the anger starts creeping in..It is much easier to blame my bad attitude on someone else.That is wrong though.The way that we respond to any situation is OUR responsibility.No matter how in the wrong our husbands are or how difficult our children are being.

It is late and I would be in bed by now if it weren't for a certain fussy,teething baby.:) I am so thankful for him but as he was fussing I found myself feeling  irritated. I just wanted to go to bed! But........my response is my responsibility! I can't become impatient because my precious little baby is fussing.I need to be patient,kind and loving because it is RIGHT.I need to do everything as unto Christ!

Our circumstances are not to *blame* for the way we act.They reveal who we really are inside.When the pressure is put on,the true colors/scents are revealed.

It is easy to be a loving wife to a husband who brings home flowers every night,washes the dishes and tells you to go take a nice hot bath ALONE.:)

Not so easy to be loving to one who comes home in a bad mood because of problems at work and starts snapping at everyone.

It is easy to be thankful when everything is perfect but how thankful are we when things don't go as planned or things just go downright BAD?

It is easy to be full of faith when life is grand but when tragedies happen how is our faith?

The author of "Love and Respect" gives an example of a rose and a skunk.If you step on either of them,they reveal their "fragrance".Why do they smell the ways they do? Did stepping on them make them smell that way? No,they already had the smell within but when you put the pressure on,it caused the smell to be released.

When the pressure is put on do you smell like a skunk or a rose? I thought this was so excellent I just had to share it!

Well,off to bed!

I am going to try to attempt this again :)

I really want to try and blog again :).I loved blogging but I just didn't take the time to keep it up.SO...I am going to try it again and hopefully with better results than last time!

Much better picture of my gardens...JUNE

You can see garden #1 ,#2 and #3.......#1 starts right in front and curves to the left and goes down to the end of garden #2....Garden #2 is the one you see right to the left of garden #1 and garden #3 is behind garden #2 but you can barely see it..... If you click on the picture you can see it enlarged......

Potato hills

They are not up yet but any day they will be! There are 25 potato plants in each hill so that gives us a total of 200 plants....They are heirloom blue potatoes.I really,really hope they do good!

This is a small section of one of our gardens......It is hard to get the whole thing in the picture......Here you can see the cabbage,some of the onions,a few tomatoes and some cauliflower.......My children each have a garden of their own this year and they are on the left side starting at the tiller and they go on down a ways....That overhead trellis you see is my little girls to grow her pole beans on....She also has morning glories planted around it.....

Garlic

My garlic patch this year.......Garlic is one of the best natural antibiotics there is.I should have about 100 heads of garlic at the end of this year if it does good.I am excited as I have never grown it before.....I don't know WHY because we love garlic!