How would he feel if he had to come home and tell you that something came up and you had to move out of the country?
Would he be afraid that you would refuse to come?
Would he be afraid that you would come but that you could not handle it emotionally?
Or would he be confident that even if you didn't want to,you would follow him anywhere and support him in whatever he decided was best for the family? (Need I put a disclaimer here that I don't mean you should support him if he wanted to murder someone or rob a bank?)
Does he KNOW that you are committed to being his Help-meet?
That you would never DREAM of not following him?
For the record,I would h.a.t.e to move out of the country.I love where I live,I have no desire to move and well,I could give you a million reasons why lol.My husband gets my opinion on just about any decision he makes.He is looking at tractors right now,he loves for me to look at them with him and let him know which ones I like/dislike.It would seriously sway his decision if I didn't like a certain tractor.I love that :).
Anyhow.....:) (Brandy,I smile and think of you every time I say "anyhow".)
Anyhow, all that to say that if my dh DID for some reason make a huge decision like that without consulting me, I would trust that it was what he thought was BEST.He KNOWS that he could not shake me if he WANTED to lol.After serving the Lord,(and serving my husband is part of this),there is NOTHING more important to me in THIS life than being his help meet.I would follow him to the end of the earth!!
I hope that you feel the same about your husband and that he KNOWS it!!!
Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts
Thursday, February 23, 2012
Wednesday, February 22, 2012
Are You His Support........
Or his stumbling block?
Are you someone who helps him overcome his trials or are you one of his trials?
Does he thank God for you or does he pray for God to help him put up with you?
Are you someone who builds him up or do you tear him down with your criticism?
If someone asked your husband if he was reverenced/respected by his wife what would he say?
Are you his HELP-meet or are you expecting him to be yours?
Are you someone who helps him overcome his trials or are you one of his trials?
Does he thank God for you or does he pray for God to help him put up with you?
Are you someone who builds him up or do you tear him down with your criticism?
If someone asked your husband if he was reverenced/respected by his wife what would he say?
Are you his HELP-meet or are you expecting him to be yours?
Friday, February 17, 2012
Friday!! Thankful list!
Adding to my list.........:):):) (Happily) (I copied everything from the past 6 weeks here because I didn't want to keep repeating myself lol......The underlined and bold stuff is from this week......:) )
1.I love that he loves to talk to me and calls me several times a day.
2.I love that he worries about us when we are out grocery shopping or ANYWHERE away from home.
3.I love that he is such a good worker that everyone wants him.Sometimes that takes him away from me but I have learned to be thankful for that.I have a man who takes providing for us very seriously.
4.I love the way he takes care of the evening chore routine.He makes sure everything is done correctly and just takes care of the whole situation.It is such a huge help to me.One thing I don't have to worry about.It is so nice to go down to the childrens rooms and see them so clean lol.They know Daddy won't accept any excuses! :):):)
5.I love how his little boys melt him.I love how he loves on them all the time and how much THEY love him!
6.I love that the other day he told me on the phone that he was talking to the most beautiful,wonderful,sweetest lady in the world.
7.I love that when I answer the phone and say "Hello!" He says "Lover....." lol
8.I love how he is really trying to make a point for us to take more showers together because we love it.(But have gotten out of the habit)
9.I love that he loves to have me near him whenever he can and NEVER gets tired of me or needs time away from me.
10.I love that he would never refer to me as his "old lady" or anything else like that.He hates those disrespectful labels.
11.I love that he loves people as much as I do.We both love having company/socializing.*Especially* with other christians.
12.I love that he is not bossy.I love that he doesn't tell me what to do 99% of the time.He is very easy to please in this area.He doesn't tell me how to cook,clean,decorate,garden etc.(He DOES tell me how to drive! roflol)
13.I love that he loves little ones so much.He is constantly pointing out darling things that the children do and talking about how cute they are.
14.I love that the other day he told me that he wouldn't give up these years with the children for any amount of money in the world.
15.I love that he is firm in his spiritual beliefs and firm about passing them down to his children.
16.I am thankful for all of the sweet thing my dh is insisting on doing for me lately like opening my doors etc.
17.I am thankful that he takes his job very seriously and that we have never NOT had our needs met.
18.I love how he calls me several times each day always telling me how much he loves me.
19.I love how he started a Bible Study for the older children so they can get into some deeper studies with us.
20.I love that he is really determined right now to spend more time with the children and I and it's not because I nag him about it!
21.I am thankful that my husband is just treating me EEEEEEXTRA special lately.He has written me a note,planned an evening for me,helped me with all sorts of things,said so many sweet things and the list goes on and on!!!! I am so blessed!
22.I am thankful that he likes me to be with him ALL the time and never gets tired of me!
23.I am thankful that it is important to him to instill an excellent work ethic in his boys (and girls).
24.I am thankful that he loves to bring me home chocolate even though that is the LAST thing I need lol.(He knows how much I love it.)
25.I am thankful that he never puts me down to other people.
1.I love that he loves to talk to me and calls me several times a day.
2.I love that he worries about us when we are out grocery shopping or ANYWHERE away from home.
3.I love that he is such a good worker that everyone wants him.Sometimes that takes him away from me but I have learned to be thankful for that.I have a man who takes providing for us very seriously.
4.I love the way he takes care of the evening chore routine.He makes sure everything is done correctly and just takes care of the whole situation.It is such a huge help to me.One thing I don't have to worry about.It is so nice to go down to the childrens rooms and see them so clean lol.They know Daddy won't accept any excuses! :):):)
5.I love how his little boys melt him.I love how he loves on them all the time and how much THEY love him!
6.I love that the other day he told me on the phone that he was talking to the most beautiful,wonderful,sweetest lady in the world.
7.I love that when I answer the phone and say "Hello!" He says "Lover....." lol
8.I love how he is really trying to make a point for us to take more showers together because we love it.(But have gotten out of the habit)
9.I love that he loves to have me near him whenever he can and NEVER gets tired of me or needs time away from me.
10.I love that he would never refer to me as his "old lady" or anything else like that.He hates those disrespectful labels.
11.I love that he loves people as much as I do.We both love having company/socializing.*Especially* with other christians.
12.I love that he is not bossy.I love that he doesn't tell me what to do 99% of the time.He is very easy to please in this area.He doesn't tell me how to cook,clean,decorate,garden etc.(He DOES tell me how to drive! roflol)
13.I love that he loves little ones so much.He is constantly pointing out darling things that the children do and talking about how cute they are.
14.I love that the other day he told me that he wouldn't give up these years with the children for any amount of money in the world.
15.I love that he is firm in his spiritual beliefs and firm about passing them down to his children.
16.I am thankful for all of the sweet thing my dh is insisting on doing for me lately like opening my doors etc.
17.I am thankful that he takes his job very seriously and that we have never NOT had our needs met.
18.I love how he calls me several times each day always telling me how much he loves me.
19.I love how he started a Bible Study for the older children so they can get into some deeper studies with us.
20.I love that he is really determined right now to spend more time with the children and I and it's not because I nag him about it!
21.I am thankful that my husband is just treating me EEEEEEXTRA special lately.He has written me a note,planned an evening for me,helped me with all sorts of things,said so many sweet things and the list goes on and on!!!! I am so blessed!
22.I am thankful that he likes me to be with him ALL the time and never gets tired of me!
23.I am thankful that it is important to him to instill an excellent work ethic in his boys (and girls).
24.I am thankful that he loves to bring me home chocolate even though that is the LAST thing I need lol.(He knows how much I love it.)
25.I am thankful that he never puts me down to other people.
Thursday, February 16, 2012
Forgiveness
Hi ladies! How is everyone? I am doing just great here.......I just wanted to throw a couple thoughts out there for you to think about......
We all know that the negative things that our husbands do over and over and over again are the things that really get to us.They tend to BUILD up and every time the offense occurs again,all of the past offenses come rushing back in too and it can REALLY get you mad if you are not careful.
How do we want the Lord to deal with *our* repeated sins though? We ALL have areas that we struggle with consistently.We need to make sure that we are giving our husbands the same mercy and forgiveness that we wish the Lord to give us.
The second thing.......Are you able to forgive your husband without an apology from him? It's a really good thing to practice.Sometimes he may not realize he is wrong.You can tell him how he makes you feel when he does this or says that but sometimes he won't SEE it or understand.It might take him YEARS to understand you in some areas and then again,you might find out down the road that YOU were the one in the wrong! That's happened to me *many* times.
Or he might KNOW that he's wrong but just be too hard headed to apologize.:) Can you still forgive him?
I can't help but look to the Lord again and be SO thankful for all of the times he has forgiven me and had mercy on me.Even when I was living in sin for years and didn't realize it.Or the times that I know I am wrong but am too lazy,careless or frustrated to truly repent to the Lord.
Lets be SURE to give the same forgiveness to our men (and others) that WE ourselves receive from the Lord!!
Matthew 18 is an amazing chapter on forgiveness.........It can really straighten up your wrong attitudes (something I need daily).
We all know that the negative things that our husbands do over and over and over again are the things that really get to us.They tend to BUILD up and every time the offense occurs again,all of the past offenses come rushing back in too and it can REALLY get you mad if you are not careful.
How do we want the Lord to deal with *our* repeated sins though? We ALL have areas that we struggle with consistently.We need to make sure that we are giving our husbands the same mercy and forgiveness that we wish the Lord to give us.
The second thing.......Are you able to forgive your husband without an apology from him? It's a really good thing to practice.Sometimes he may not realize he is wrong.You can tell him how he makes you feel when he does this or says that but sometimes he won't SEE it or understand.It might take him YEARS to understand you in some areas and then again,you might find out down the road that YOU were the one in the wrong! That's happened to me *many* times.
Or he might KNOW that he's wrong but just be too hard headed to apologize.:) Can you still forgive him?
I can't help but look to the Lord again and be SO thankful for all of the times he has forgiven me and had mercy on me.Even when I was living in sin for years and didn't realize it.Or the times that I know I am wrong but am too lazy,careless or frustrated to truly repent to the Lord.
Lets be SURE to give the same forgiveness to our men (and others) that WE ourselves receive from the Lord!!
Matthew 18 is an amazing chapter on forgiveness.........It can really straighten up your wrong attitudes (something I need daily).
Tuesday, February 14, 2012
Practice Makes Perfect
Time for a little practice.........:)
Pick ONE thing that your dh does that you think is unwise,irresponsible,a bad influence,a waste of time etc.etc.
Think long and hard about this........Pick one of those things that bother you daily,or at least almost daily.
Do you have your thing? (Bet it wasn't too hard to think of something was it?) :):)
Now......
Write it down on a piece of paper, and look long and hard at it.
Finally............Crumple it up,throw it in the trash or even BURN it.
Let that thing go.Determine to STOP caring about that thing.
Let that chip fall off of your shoulder forever.
Don't EVER let it ruin another evening.......Not even another MOMENT.
Remember that you have NO idea what the Lord is doing in your husbands life OR yours.
Remember that the job the Lord gave YOU as your husbands help meet is to reverence,support,respect,love,encourage etc. etc.
Not to nag,complain,or criticize.
You will find it wanting to rest on your shoulder again but don't let it.Brush it off every.single.time.
Before you know it...........You will find that it never or atleast rarely,weighs you down anymore,AND I almost guarantee that your husband will notice it.Instead of doing that thing MORE.........
He just might do it less.
(But make sure you aren't DOING it to try to get him to do it less.Make sure you are making these changes because they are RIGHT,expecting nothing in return.)
You are practicing JOY.
Pick ONE thing that your dh does that you think is unwise,irresponsible,a bad influence,a waste of time etc.etc.
Think long and hard about this........Pick one of those things that bother you daily,or at least almost daily.
Do you have your thing? (Bet it wasn't too hard to think of something was it?) :):)
Now......
Write it down on a piece of paper, and look long and hard at it.
Finally............Crumple it up,throw it in the trash or even BURN it.
Let that thing go.Determine to STOP caring about that thing.
Let that chip fall off of your shoulder forever.
Don't EVER let it ruin another evening.......Not even another MOMENT.
Remember that you have NO idea what the Lord is doing in your husbands life OR yours.
Remember that the job the Lord gave YOU as your husbands help meet is to reverence,support,respect,love,encourage etc. etc.
Not to nag,complain,or criticize.
You will find it wanting to rest on your shoulder again but don't let it.Brush it off every.single.time.
Before you know it...........You will find that it never or atleast rarely,weighs you down anymore,AND I almost guarantee that your husband will notice it.Instead of doing that thing MORE.........
He just might do it less.
(But make sure you aren't DOING it to try to get him to do it less.Make sure you are making these changes because they are RIGHT,expecting nothing in return.)
You are practicing JOY.
Monday, February 13, 2012
No Chips......
Hello ladies!! How are you doing????
I am absolutely wonderful! I had a great weekend with my husband and children and am excited to jump back into a new week.We went from having NO milk (having to buy it elsewhere) for the last several months to having TWO cows freshen on the SAME day!! TWO calves born yesterday! lol One heifer and one bull!!! I am soooooo excited!! Butter/yogurt/cheese here we come!!!!!
So......Lets review what we have been working on.
Week 1-Greet him with JOY when he comes home and then keep your words sweet for *at least* 15 minutes.
Week 2-Start your day strong! Take time to get your priorities straight.Pray for strength and read your Bible.
Week 3-Never scold your husband.
Week 4-Be determined to be what the Lord desires you to do be regardless of what your husband does or how he acts.
Week 5-Keep the fire fueled.
My update on how *I* have been doing!
I have been doing great at greeting my husband and keeping my words sweet! This last week I had a really FUN opportunity that fit into to the greeting him with JOY category,keeping my words sweet AND keeping the fire fueled! He called me to tell me that he was coming home but that he had to stop at the neighbors house to discuss feed prices etc.(farmer stuff and I KNEW that they would talk a while because our neighbor is a TALKER lol).
Well,I decided to surprise him lol.......I took off walking *hoping* that I could get to his truck (he drives truck) and get IN it and be waiting for him lol.He drives truck and brings his truck home every night so it was parked out in front of the neighbors barn,still running and nice and WARM thankfully because I was COLD! (It is a mile to the neighbors house.)
I got in the truck and waited for him for 1/2 an hour! lol I was SOOOO excited that I made it! lol I as just listening to music and enjoying myself.He had his cell phone in his truck still too so I was able to call the children (my 16yo sister was watching them) and let them know that I made it and that Daddy still didn't know I was there lol (they were all excited that I was going to surprise him).
You should have see his face when he hopped up into his truck!!!!!! lol I also had some underthings um......laying across his steering wheel!! *wink* :):) It was a pretty fun time! :):)
#2 I have been doing better than EVER at reading my Bible and praying every morning.I have NOT done perfect.I am going to keep on being determined to make this a habit though! I have made about HALF of the mornings is my guess but I am not giving up.....
#3 Doing great here.......This isn't a hard area for me.
#4 Doing pretty good here too! The more I practice this,the easier it becomes but I always have to be careful to keep it in my head all the time.
#5 Great in this area! We have kept up with our Valentines Day challenge and have been having a blast! I have also been making a concentrated effort to be with him whenever I can.When he is outside working or just whatever he is doing,He loves to have me with him.......helping him or just being with him.If he is on the internet looking at tractors,cleaning his shop,mucking the barn out,feeding the cows,walking in the woods looking for rubs or sheds(deer),sitting in his tree stand (YES.....we did that recently! He is already picking out his hunting spot for NEXT year!) *whatever* he is doing.......He loves to have me with him.(I am SORE from helping him clean the barn out this weekend! lol) We used to do EVERYTHING together and over the last several years and babies well,I stopped going with him as much and he doesn't like that.That is going to CHANGE now though.We are having a BLAST together!!!
Soooooo that's my update!
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THIS weeks challenge?
"Never carry a chip on your shoulder no matter how much of a right you have to be offended or hurt."
Those wise words are NOT mine but belong to someone else that I respect in the marriage area and they are SO true.I have been working on this for *years*.Ever since I first heard about it.I finally feel that I am making progress although it is still HARD.
You all know how it is.......Attitudes.....He did something that he knows you don't like, or he used a harsh tone with you, or you thought he was wrong in how he dealt with one of the little ones, or he didn't come home when you wanted him to, or he isn't spending enough time with you etc. etc. etc. The list goes on and on and we women,well we are really good at giving the cold shoulder.
Holding grudges.
Carrying chips.
Those chips can get really heavy too and can absolutely RUIN the rest of a perfectly good evening......or weekend.......or your entire marriage.
Refuse to carry a chip on your shoulder.............Forgive forgive forgive.......
Matthew 18:21,22 Then came Peter to him,and said,Lord,how oft shall my brother sin against me,and I forgive him?till seven times?
Jesus saith unto him,I say not unto thee,Until seven times:but,Until seventy times seven.
I like to literally picture an offense hitting me and seeing it roll right off.....Not able to stick.Not able to take root.Not able to get in between my husband and I.
Forgive over and over.......
Every day.
Every moment!!!!
I am absolutely wonderful! I had a great weekend with my husband and children and am excited to jump back into a new week.We went from having NO milk (having to buy it elsewhere) for the last several months to having TWO cows freshen on the SAME day!! TWO calves born yesterday! lol One heifer and one bull!!! I am soooooo excited!! Butter/yogurt/cheese here we come!!!!!
So......Lets review what we have been working on.
Week 1-Greet him with JOY when he comes home and then keep your words sweet for *at least* 15 minutes.
Week 2-Start your day strong! Take time to get your priorities straight.Pray for strength and read your Bible.
Week 3-Never scold your husband.
Week 4-Be determined to be what the Lord desires you to do be regardless of what your husband does or how he acts.
Week 5-Keep the fire fueled.
My update on how *I* have been doing!
I have been doing great at greeting my husband and keeping my words sweet! This last week I had a really FUN opportunity that fit into to the greeting him with JOY category,keeping my words sweet AND keeping the fire fueled! He called me to tell me that he was coming home but that he had to stop at the neighbors house to discuss feed prices etc.(farmer stuff and I KNEW that they would talk a while because our neighbor is a TALKER lol).
Well,I decided to surprise him lol.......I took off walking *hoping* that I could get to his truck (he drives truck) and get IN it and be waiting for him lol.He drives truck and brings his truck home every night so it was parked out in front of the neighbors barn,still running and nice and WARM thankfully because I was COLD! (It is a mile to the neighbors house.)
I got in the truck and waited for him for 1/2 an hour! lol I was SOOOO excited that I made it! lol I as just listening to music and enjoying myself.He had his cell phone in his truck still too so I was able to call the children (my 16yo sister was watching them) and let them know that I made it and that Daddy still didn't know I was there lol (they were all excited that I was going to surprise him).
You should have see his face when he hopped up into his truck!!!!!! lol I also had some underthings um......laying across his steering wheel!! *wink* :):) It was a pretty fun time! :):)
#2 I have been doing better than EVER at reading my Bible and praying every morning.I have NOT done perfect.I am going to keep on being determined to make this a habit though! I have made about HALF of the mornings is my guess but I am not giving up.....
#3 Doing great here.......This isn't a hard area for me.
#4 Doing pretty good here too! The more I practice this,the easier it becomes but I always have to be careful to keep it in my head all the time.
#5 Great in this area! We have kept up with our Valentines Day challenge and have been having a blast! I have also been making a concentrated effort to be with him whenever I can.When he is outside working or just whatever he is doing,He loves to have me with him.......helping him or just being with him.If he is on the internet looking at tractors,cleaning his shop,mucking the barn out,feeding the cows,walking in the woods looking for rubs or sheds(deer),sitting in his tree stand (YES.....we did that recently! He is already picking out his hunting spot for NEXT year!) *whatever* he is doing.......He loves to have me with him.(I am SORE from helping him clean the barn out this weekend! lol) We used to do EVERYTHING together and over the last several years and babies well,I stopped going with him as much and he doesn't like that.That is going to CHANGE now though.We are having a BLAST together!!!
Soooooo that's my update!
~~~~~~~~~~~~~
THIS weeks challenge?
"Never carry a chip on your shoulder no matter how much of a right you have to be offended or hurt."
Those wise words are NOT mine but belong to someone else that I respect in the marriage area and they are SO true.I have been working on this for *years*.Ever since I first heard about it.I finally feel that I am making progress although it is still HARD.
You all know how it is.......Attitudes.....He did something that he knows you don't like, or he used a harsh tone with you, or you thought he was wrong in how he dealt with one of the little ones, or he didn't come home when you wanted him to, or he isn't spending enough time with you etc. etc. etc. The list goes on and on and we women,well we are really good at giving the cold shoulder.
Holding grudges.
Carrying chips.
Those chips can get really heavy too and can absolutely RUIN the rest of a perfectly good evening......or weekend.......or your entire marriage.
Refuse to carry a chip on your shoulder.............Forgive forgive forgive.......
Matthew 18:21,22 Then came Peter to him,and said,Lord,how oft shall my brother sin against me,and I forgive him?till seven times?
Jesus saith unto him,I say not unto thee,Until seven times:but,Until seventy times seven.
I like to literally picture an offense hitting me and seeing it roll right off.....Not able to stick.Not able to take root.Not able to get in between my husband and I.
Forgive over and over.......
Every day.
Every moment!!!!
Friday, February 10, 2012
What are we thankful for this Friday!!
About our men???
1.I am thankful for all of the sweet thing my dh is insisting on doing for me lately like opening my doors etc.
2.I am thankful that he takes his job very seriously and that we have never NOT had our needs met.
3.I love how he calls me several times each day always telling me how much he loves me.
4.I love how he started a Bible Study for the older children so they can get into some deeper studies with us.
5.I love that he is really determined right now to spend more time with the children and I and it's not because I nag him about it!
We are really having fun with our Valentines day challenge!!!!! lol
1.I am thankful for all of the sweet thing my dh is insisting on doing for me lately like opening my doors etc.
2.I am thankful that he takes his job very seriously and that we have never NOT had our needs met.
3.I love how he calls me several times each day always telling me how much he loves me.
4.I love how he started a Bible Study for the older children so they can get into some deeper studies with us.
5.I love that he is really determined right now to spend more time with the children and I and it's not because I nag him about it!
We are really having fun with our Valentines day challenge!!!!! lol
Thursday, February 9, 2012
Bedtimes For Children
I would love to encourage you ALL to make sure that your children are not coming before your husband.
You need to keep your marriage first.
This is best for your children.
One of the best things you can do for your children is to keep your marriage strong.
Children are miserable when Mamma and Daddy aren't happy.
Are your children up too late at night? Have you ever considered putting them to bed early enough so that your husband and you have at least an hour together every night ALONE ?
Maybe it won't work for some and that's ok.........I don't want anyone writing me and telling me how it is impossible for them to do that because of xyz.That's fine....I understand that there are unique situations.
Most of us though, could definitely put the children to bed earlier.They don't have to go to sleep right away.
My children LOVE books on tape at night!
My little boys go into their beds to be read to and tucked in by Mamma at 8:00.This gives my husband and I some time with just the older children who go to their rooms at 9:00.That gives us time alone then for at least an hour.Sometimes we even stay up later........We read together/talk/watch movies/eat dessert......:):)
We don't allow the children to call out to us every 5 minutes asking for a drink or to use the bathroom either.They are usually out in no time.
Try it!
You need to keep your marriage first.
This is best for your children.
One of the best things you can do for your children is to keep your marriage strong.
Children are miserable when Mamma and Daddy aren't happy.
Are your children up too late at night? Have you ever considered putting them to bed early enough so that your husband and you have at least an hour together every night ALONE ?
Maybe it won't work for some and that's ok.........I don't want anyone writing me and telling me how it is impossible for them to do that because of xyz.That's fine....I understand that there are unique situations.
Most of us though, could definitely put the children to bed earlier.They don't have to go to sleep right away.
My children LOVE books on tape at night!
My little boys go into their beds to be read to and tucked in by Mamma at 8:00.This gives my husband and I some time with just the older children who go to their rooms at 9:00.That gives us time alone then for at least an hour.Sometimes we even stay up later........We read together/talk/watch movies/eat dessert......:):)
We don't allow the children to call out to us every 5 minutes asking for a drink or to use the bathroom either.They are usually out in no time.
Try it!
Tuesday, February 7, 2012
Keep the Fire Fueled
I am SO sorry that I have not updated!!! I had something else come up that NEEDED my attention.I hope that does not happen again!!
So......How is everyone doing? I am doing great at the first 4 new habits.It makes me so happy!! :):) I have been doing great at starting the day with prayer and scripture!! I have missed a few days but not many and I *am* getting better!
Week 5 is to Keep the Fire Fueled
After several years of marriage,it starts to take alot more effort and sometimes downright *work* to keep the flame burning strong.Don't accept the idea that your marriage has to get boring,cold or stale.You *can* keep it hot! :):):)
I have lots of tips here but the one I want to suggest today is to take it upon yourSELF to keep it going.
Don't say "Honey......Lets go out on a date tonight!!"
You may be disappointed when he doesn't take initative to do that.
Instead say.......
"Honey,meet me in the bedroom at 9:00 tonight for a big surpirse." :)
YOU get the children to bed early,make a special meal,get dressed up,have a fun dessert,wine,music.......whatever.......
If he *wants* to help thats GREAT but if not thats fine too! The point is to not wait for him to do it.I have heard women say "I have tried to plan romantic times but he just isn't interested....."
I don't know many men who would refuse being dragged into the bedroom by their wives:).
So,take it upon yourself to set up some romance......Don't nag and say "Honey.......Are you going to put the children to bed? Honey are you going to help with supper so we can have time together? Honey are you going to........"
Set it up and make it happen!! :):)
So......How is everyone doing? I am doing great at the first 4 new habits.It makes me so happy!! :):) I have been doing great at starting the day with prayer and scripture!! I have missed a few days but not many and I *am* getting better!
Week 5 is to Keep the Fire Fueled
After several years of marriage,it starts to take alot more effort and sometimes downright *work* to keep the flame burning strong.Don't accept the idea that your marriage has to get boring,cold or stale.You *can* keep it hot! :):):)
I have lots of tips here but the one I want to suggest today is to take it upon yourSELF to keep it going.
Don't say "Honey......Lets go out on a date tonight!!"
You may be disappointed when he doesn't take initative to do that.
Instead say.......
"Honey,meet me in the bedroom at 9:00 tonight for a big surpirse." :)
YOU get the children to bed early,make a special meal,get dressed up,have a fun dessert,wine,music.......whatever.......
If he *wants* to help thats GREAT but if not thats fine too! The point is to not wait for him to do it.I have heard women say "I have tried to plan romantic times but he just isn't interested....."
I don't know many men who would refuse being dragged into the bedroom by their wives:).
So,take it upon yourself to set up some romance......Don't nag and say "Honey.......Are you going to put the children to bed? Honey are you going to help with supper so we can have time together? Honey are you going to........"
Set it up and make it happen!! :):)
Tuesday, January 31, 2012
Influencing Our Husbands?
Week 1-Greet him with JOY when he comes home and then keep your words sweet for *at least* 15 minutes.
Week 2-Start your day strong! Take time to get your priorities straight.Pray for strength and read your Bible.
Week 3-Never scold your husband.
Then THIS week is........
Week 4-Be determined to be what the Lord desires you to do be regardless of what your husband does or how he acts
My dear friend Tina,from A gentle Mother,shared this with me and I thought it fit PERFECT with our topic this week.Here it is........
"How can she (a wife) make sure that her influence over her husband will be for good, that he will be a better man, more successful in his career and more happy because she is his wife? Not by any mere moral posturing so as to seem to have lofty purpose and wise thoughts of life; not by having any weak resolving to help him and be an uplifting inspiration to him; not by perpetual preaching and lecturing on a husband's duties and on manly character; she can only do it by being in the very depths of her soul, in every thought and impulse of her heart and in every fibre of her nature, a true and noble woman. She will make him not like what she tells him he ought to be, but like what she herself is."
~J.R. Miller Home-Making (aka The Family Life) 1882
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Such wonderful stuff.........We need to be sure that we are doing what we are doing for the Lord.It needs to be what we ARE because of HIM.If you are trying to be a good wife so that your husband will change,you have the wrong attitude.You need to strive to be godly because it is what you ARE.
If we are only acting in certain ways for a time so that we can influence,it won't work.I have had people try the things I talk about here and after a few weeks they say "It's not WORKING!"
That is the wrong attitude.
Strive to serve the Lord.
Strive to do his will.
Study his word.
Pray to him for wisdom and strength.
Seek to please HIM everyday.
Change for HIM.
HE will do the work..............He has a plan and you have no idea what it is.
Become the kind of wife that the Lord wants you to be, expecting NOTHING from your husband.
This is the attitude you must have.
We can be a huge influence on our husbands but it has to be what we ARE.
Not what we are for a few weeks because we are trying to change him........
Week 2-Start your day strong! Take time to get your priorities straight.Pray for strength and read your Bible.
Week 3-Never scold your husband.
Then THIS week is........
Week 4-Be determined to be what the Lord desires you to do be regardless of what your husband does or how he acts
My dear friend Tina,from A gentle Mother,shared this with me and I thought it fit PERFECT with our topic this week.Here it is........
"How can she (a wife) make sure that her influence over her husband will be for good, that he will be a better man, more successful in his career and more happy because she is his wife? Not by any mere moral posturing so as to seem to have lofty purpose and wise thoughts of life; not by having any weak resolving to help him and be an uplifting inspiration to him; not by perpetual preaching and lecturing on a husband's duties and on manly character; she can only do it by being in the very depths of her soul, in every thought and impulse of her heart and in every fibre of her nature, a true and noble woman. She will make him not like what she tells him he ought to be, but like what she herself is."
~J.R. Miller Home-Making (aka The Family Life) 1882
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Such wonderful stuff.........We need to be sure that we are doing what we are doing for the Lord.It needs to be what we ARE because of HIM.If you are trying to be a good wife so that your husband will change,you have the wrong attitude.You need to strive to be godly because it is what you ARE.
If we are only acting in certain ways for a time so that we can influence,it won't work.I have had people try the things I talk about here and after a few weeks they say "It's not WORKING!"
That is the wrong attitude.
Strive to serve the Lord.
Strive to do his will.
Study his word.
Pray to him for wisdom and strength.
Seek to please HIM everyday.
Change for HIM.
HE will do the work..............He has a plan and you have no idea what it is.
Become the kind of wife that the Lord wants you to be, expecting NOTHING from your husband.
This is the attitude you must have.
We can be a huge influence on our husbands but it has to be what we ARE.
Not what we are for a few weeks because we are trying to change him........
Monday, January 30, 2012
The biggest marriage stumbling block.......
First of all,I am sorry that I have not written ANYTHING in the last 2 days! I missed Friday,planned on catching up on Saturday and then I was in town until 3:00!!!!! After that it was date night and the time just slipped away...........Sunday is just a "How did you do this week?" day and since only a couple people actually tell me how they are doing...........:):):):) I didn't think it was that important to do Sunday.:)
I *DO* have 8 weeks of things planned though! I literally have *something* planned every day for the next 5 weeks so I am not quitting! :) Even though no one is *saying* anything I see plenty of traffic here so I am assuming that people are still reading and just to busy to post which is FINE! :):)
So let us proceed with week 4! :):):)
I want to say here that everything I am writing comes from *my* experiences.These are the things I have learned and have come to believe throughout the 15 years that I have been a wife.I want to share them with others.I don't claim to be perfect and I do expect you to be considering your OWN husband and his desires as you go along here.All marriages are different.
Now that that is said.......... :)
Week four is about what I believe is the biggest marriage stumbling block.It is actually the biggest relationship stumbling block PERIOD.
"I will do what I am supposed to do if you do what you are supposed to do."
Yep..........We ALL know about that one.
The habit for week 4 is something that you will have to work on every day for the rest of your life.( me too)
Here it is.........
Be determined to be what the Lord desires you to do be regardless of what your husband does or how he acts.
It's that simple.
You say "Well what about him????? What about the things HE is supposed to do?"
What about them? Can you force him to do those things? No more than he can force YOU to do the things YOU should do for him.
You say "Why is it all the woman? Why does the woman have to do all the changing?"
It is NOT all the woman.Both woman AND man will face the Lord someday.He does not require any more from a woman than he does a man.
He commands women to serve HIM with all of their heart and soul.
He commands men to serve HIM with all of their heart and soul.
Will you face the Lord someday and tell him "Lord,I was not obedient to you because my husband was not being obedient to you."
No.
Well,you might try it but it won't get you anywhere.
Be determined to be what the Lord desires you to do be regardless of what your husband does or how he acts.
If you are a christian,your job is to serve the Lord and if you are a wife,part of that job is to serve your husband.
1 Corinthians 11:3
But I would have you know,that the head of every man is Christ;and the head of the woman is the man;and the head of Christ is God.
1 Corinthians 3:9
Neither was the man created for the woman;but the woman for the man.
Ephesians 5:22-24
Wives,submit yourselves unto your own husbands,as unto the Lord.
For the husband is the head of the wife,even as Christ is the head of the church:and he is the saviour of the body.
Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ,so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
Read 1st Peter chapter 3.
THIS is your job.It is not your job to make sure that your husband is doing his job.Your job is to follow the Lord's commandments.
This is what week 4 is about.........
Be determined to be what the Lord desires you to do be regardless of what your husband does or how he acts.
When a situation happens that makes it hard for you to respect your husband like you should........Look past him and see Christ.
Do it for Christ.
Do it because you want to be a godly woman.
Share your thoughts here about 1 Peter chapter 3!!!!!!
I *DO* have 8 weeks of things planned though! I literally have *something* planned every day for the next 5 weeks so I am not quitting! :) Even though no one is *saying* anything I see plenty of traffic here so I am assuming that people are still reading and just to busy to post which is FINE! :):)
So let us proceed with week 4! :):):)
I want to say here that everything I am writing comes from *my* experiences.These are the things I have learned and have come to believe throughout the 15 years that I have been a wife.I want to share them with others.I don't claim to be perfect and I do expect you to be considering your OWN husband and his desires as you go along here.All marriages are different.
Now that that is said.......... :)
Week four is about what I believe is the biggest marriage stumbling block.It is actually the biggest relationship stumbling block PERIOD.
"I will do what I am supposed to do if you do what you are supposed to do."
Yep..........We ALL know about that one.
The habit for week 4 is something that you will have to work on every day for the rest of your life.( me too)
Here it is.........
Be determined to be what the Lord desires you to do be regardless of what your husband does or how he acts.
It's that simple.
You say "Well what about him????? What about the things HE is supposed to do?"
What about them? Can you force him to do those things? No more than he can force YOU to do the things YOU should do for him.
You say "Why is it all the woman? Why does the woman have to do all the changing?"
It is NOT all the woman.Both woman AND man will face the Lord someday.He does not require any more from a woman than he does a man.
He commands women to serve HIM with all of their heart and soul.
He commands men to serve HIM with all of their heart and soul.
Will you face the Lord someday and tell him "Lord,I was not obedient to you because my husband was not being obedient to you."
No.
Well,you might try it but it won't get you anywhere.
Be determined to be what the Lord desires you to do be regardless of what your husband does or how he acts.
If you are a christian,your job is to serve the Lord and if you are a wife,part of that job is to serve your husband.
1 Corinthians 11:3
But I would have you know,that the head of every man is Christ;and the head of the woman is the man;and the head of Christ is God.
1 Corinthians 3:9
Neither was the man created for the woman;but the woman for the man.
Ephesians 5:22-24
Wives,submit yourselves unto your own husbands,as unto the Lord.
For the husband is the head of the wife,even as Christ is the head of the church:and he is the saviour of the body.
Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ,so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
Read 1st Peter chapter 3.
THIS is your job.It is not your job to make sure that your husband is doing his job.Your job is to follow the Lord's commandments.
This is what week 4 is about.........
Be determined to be what the Lord desires you to do be regardless of what your husband does or how he acts.
When a situation happens that makes it hard for you to respect your husband like you should........Look past him and see Christ.
Do it for Christ.
Do it because you want to be a godly woman.
Share your thoughts here about 1 Peter chapter 3!!!!!!
Friday, January 27, 2012
Friday........Thankful list!
First,I am sorry I didn't post yesterday.I was so busy and then I forgot.I will post SATURDAY what I was going to post yesterday.
How is everyone doing?
Week 1-Greet him with JOY when he comes home and then keep your words sweet for *at least* 15 minutes.
Week 2-Start your day strong! Take time to get your priorities straight.Pray for strength and read your Bible.
Week 3-Never scold your husband.
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I am doing great.The hardest thing is for me to read my Bible and pray in the mornings.As I have said before,this is something I have wanted to make a habit of for YEARS and I have never stuck with it.I really want to change that.I want it to be so that I crave/need that time with the Lord like I do the other things in my life that I love.I want it to be HABIT.
Today I opened my Bible as soon as Scott walked out the door and I had my time praying too.I am very happy about that!!!
My thankful list for this week.
1.I love that he loves people as much as I do.We both love having company/socializing.*Especially* with other christians.
2.I love that he is not bossy.I love that he doesn't tell me what to do 99% of the time.He is very easy to please in this area.He doesn't tell me how to cook,clean,decorate,garden etc.(He DOES tell me how to drive! roflol)
3.I love that he loves little ones so much.He is constantly pointing out darling things that the children do and talking about how cute they are.
4.I love that the other day he told me that he wouldn't give up these years with the children for any amount of money in the world.
5.I love that he is firm in his spiritual beliefs and firm about passing them down to his children.
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I don't know about you ladies but when I read your lists I think we all have pretty amazing husbands!
Don't you just LOVE godly men? ALL godly/masculine men and fathers? What would we do without them?
How is everyone doing?
Week 1-Greet him with JOY when he comes home and then keep your words sweet for *at least* 15 minutes.
Week 2-Start your day strong! Take time to get your priorities straight.Pray for strength and read your Bible.
Week 3-Never scold your husband.
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I am doing great.The hardest thing is for me to read my Bible and pray in the mornings.As I have said before,this is something I have wanted to make a habit of for YEARS and I have never stuck with it.I really want to change that.I want it to be so that I crave/need that time with the Lord like I do the other things in my life that I love.I want it to be HABIT.
Today I opened my Bible as soon as Scott walked out the door and I had my time praying too.I am very happy about that!!!
My thankful list for this week.
1.I love that he loves people as much as I do.We both love having company/socializing.*Especially* with other christians.
2.I love that he is not bossy.I love that he doesn't tell me what to do 99% of the time.He is very easy to please in this area.He doesn't tell me how to cook,clean,decorate,garden etc.(He DOES tell me how to drive! roflol)
3.I love that he loves little ones so much.He is constantly pointing out darling things that the children do and talking about how cute they are.
4.I love that the other day he told me that he wouldn't give up these years with the children for any amount of money in the world.
5.I love that he is firm in his spiritual beliefs and firm about passing them down to his children.
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I don't know about you ladies but when I read your lists I think we all have pretty amazing husbands!
Don't you just LOVE godly men? ALL godly/masculine men and fathers? What would we do without them?
Wednesday, January 25, 2012
Study others........
Sorry this is so late.
How have you been doing?
Week 1-Greet him with JOY when he comes home and then keep your words sweet for *at least* 15 minutes.
Week 2-Start your day strong! Take time to get your priorities straight.Pray for strength and read your Bible.
Week 3-Never scold your husband.
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Something I do ALOT is to study other couples.Look around you.If you are blessed enough to know someone with a happy marriage,study them.Study the bad marriages too.See what they do,how they act.All marriages will be different for sure and I don't mean to say that you should start acting like your neighbors wife.You are married to YOUR husband and it is very important to remember that.
BUT......There are many things though that are right for *everybody*.
Study other couples,other women.It is so hard to see your own faults,we all know that.When I see other people act in unattractive ways it really helps me see how it LOOKS.It makes me look at myself and see if *I* act like that.When someone acts in a way that I think is attractive and godly, I look at myself and see if *I* have room for improvement in that area.
You can learn SO much from studying other people.Christian AND non-Christian!
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How is everyone doing? I have been doing great at #1 and pretty good at #2! Today I just TOTALLY forgot though! I didn't pray or read my Bible and didn't even REALIZE it until tonight!
#3 I really don't have a problem with but it is something I am always keeping in my heart to NOT do.
Lets not *ever* get comfortable and slack in our marriages! No matter HOW wonderful our marriages are we have to make sure that we tend to them every day.
I don't care how healthy you have eaten your entire life,if you quit feeding and watering yourself you are going to die.
Well I am off for now to have an evening with my man! :)
Lately he has been sooooooooooooooo sweet.Telling me every day,multiple times a day how much he loves me and how wonderful I am.Doing the sweetest things for me and helping me out so much........I love that man and I love this challenge! I always want to make sure to keep my marriage ALIVE.
How have you been doing?
Week 1-Greet him with JOY when he comes home and then keep your words sweet for *at least* 15 minutes.
Week 2-Start your day strong! Take time to get your priorities straight.Pray for strength and read your Bible.
Week 3-Never scold your husband.
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Something I do ALOT is to study other couples.Look around you.If you are blessed enough to know someone with a happy marriage,study them.Study the bad marriages too.See what they do,how they act.All marriages will be different for sure and I don't mean to say that you should start acting like your neighbors wife.You are married to YOUR husband and it is very important to remember that.
BUT......There are many things though that are right for *everybody*.
Study other couples,other women.It is so hard to see your own faults,we all know that.When I see other people act in unattractive ways it really helps me see how it LOOKS.It makes me look at myself and see if *I* act like that.When someone acts in a way that I think is attractive and godly, I look at myself and see if *I* have room for improvement in that area.
You can learn SO much from studying other people.Christian AND non-Christian!
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How is everyone doing? I have been doing great at #1 and pretty good at #2! Today I just TOTALLY forgot though! I didn't pray or read my Bible and didn't even REALIZE it until tonight!
#3 I really don't have a problem with but it is something I am always keeping in my heart to NOT do.
Lets not *ever* get comfortable and slack in our marriages! No matter HOW wonderful our marriages are we have to make sure that we tend to them every day.
I don't care how healthy you have eaten your entire life,if you quit feeding and watering yourself you are going to die.
Well I am off for now to have an evening with my man! :)
Lately he has been sooooooooooooooo sweet.Telling me every day,multiple times a day how much he loves me and how wonderful I am.Doing the sweetest things for me and helping me out so much........I love that man and I love this challenge! I always want to make sure to keep my marriage ALIVE.
Tuesday, January 24, 2012
Ask him......
A little,mini challenge for you........and you don't need to share the answers here.(Unless you want to)
Ask your husband if you ever "scold" him.If so.........
Ask him if he likes it.
Ask him if it helps/motivates him to do better.
Ask him if there is anything that you do that makes him feel like a child "in trouble".
Ask him if he avoids doing certain things for fear of getting in trouble with you.
Thats it! :) Pay close attention to his answers and do not get mad at what he says.
Ask your husband if you ever "scold" him.If so.........
Ask him if he likes it.
Ask him if it helps/motivates him to do better.
Ask him if there is anything that you do that makes him feel like a child "in trouble".
Ask him if he avoids doing certain things for fear of getting in trouble with you.
Thats it! :) Pay close attention to his answers and do not get mad at what he says.
Monday, January 23, 2012
Do not scold your man.......
Week 3 ladies!
Week 1-Greet him with JOY when he comes home and then keep your words sweet for *at least* 15 minutes.
Week 2-Start your day strong! Take time to get your priorities straight.Pray for strength and read your Bible.
Now week 3 is this...........
Do not ever scold your husband.
He is not your child.
We mothers are very prone to including our husbands in with our children when it comes to correction/admonishing/scolding.We need to be VERY careful not to do this.
I have been asked what I believe is appropriate and what is not appropriate as far as correcting your husband.I am going to give several examples of what *I* feel is respectful in this area.Examples to show how *I* have handled things over the years.I am not giving these as FACTS, but my opinions.I will say that I have an excellent marriage and my husband would tell you the same.I will also say that I have never seen a happy marriage where the wife was in the "mother" role towards her husband."Scolding" him and correcting him at every turn.
We need to remember these scriptures as we go along.
Ephesians 5:22- 24
Wives,submit yourselves unto your own husbands,as unto the Lord.
For the husband is the head of the wife,even as Christ is the head of the church:and he is the saviour of the body.
Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ,so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
Ephesians 5:33
Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself;and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
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I thought I would use the definitions below to help me explain.
Scolding
1.the action of one who scolds
2: a harsh reproof
Admonish
1a : to indicate duties or obligations to b : to express warning or disapproval to especially in a gentle, earnest, or solicitous manner
2: to give friendly earnest advice or encouragement to
Correct
1a : to make or set right : amend
2a : to punish (as a child) with a view to reforming or improving b : to point out usually for amendment the errors or faults of
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Ok,first and foremost.............NEVER,
I repeat,NEVER :) scold(definition #2) your husband in front of others.Even the children.
It is a good idea to never scold your husband period.I don't think I ever have.Not even in private.
My husband would not, and has never, even scolded ME in public or in front of the children and he is not even commanded to reverence ME.
Example of scolding.......
You see your husband rough housing with the children and he falls back onto the coffee table,busting it.
"Now look! You busted the coffee table! I wish you would think about stuff like that! You are being irresponsible and not a good steward of what the Lord has given you and look what a bad example you are being to the children!You are supposed to be TEACHING THEM to be responsible!"
That makes me cringe.
I have heard it many,many,times from many,many wives.
You should never speak to your husband like that.Decide today that you will NEVER scold your husband like that.I don't care if he ruins the furniture,doesn't put the toilet seat down,lets the children do things you don't think he should,doesn't come home when he says he will etc. etc.
Here is a little test to put yourself through.(You don't have to tell us the answer.)
What would you say/how would you act if you asked your husband to watch the children while you took a shower and when you came back out 15 minutes later your toddler was coloring on the walls while your husband was playing a computer game?
Would you scold him? Would you remind him in that *tone* that he was supposed to be watching the children? Would you say alot more than that?
If you are the scolding type,you are doing your marriage and family much harm.All you are doing is showing how little "reverence" you have for your husband.How little you respect him.It will not motivate him to do right.It will only make him feel negative towards you.You will accomplish NOTHING more than tearing your marriage down.
Do NOT scold him.
Your husband has alot of growing and maturing to do,as do you.You can best help him do this by being determined to be his help,his lover,his support.......NOT his mother.Train your children,leave your husband alone.
Can you never tell him that he is wrong?
Well yes,there are definitely times that you can tell your husband that you believe he is wrong ,but when you do it,it shouldn't be in a "scolding" way and it should always be in private.
Ask him how it makes him feel to be scolded by you.(If you are a scolder)
Admonishment
In my marriage I never do 1.a.I do not remind my husband of what he should be doing for the children and I.That is not my place.
I will do 1.b and 2. if my husband asks for my opinion.(Which he does often). I am very careful though to make my words reverent and respectful.
For instance,lately he is looking for a truck and has asked my opinion *many* times.:) He loves talking about it with me.I give him my opinion BUT I do not expect him to follow it.Whatever he decides is fine.
If I think that Chevy's are junk and he decided to get a Chevy I am not going to admonish him.
If he calls me and tells me that he is going to go look at a truck, I will not admonish him to be careful to make sure it has good tires and that it gets good gas mileage etc.
If he comes home with a truck that cost $10,000.00 more than we wanted to spend I will not admonish him.
I am to submit to him in all things,as unto the Lord,as the church does to Christ....I am to respect him and REVERENCE him......
He chooses the path we are going to go, and I help him along the way.I will respectfully give him my opinions (while being very careful not to be a nag) and then follow him and what he decides.Not admonishing him for his decisions.
Correction
I find it very disrespectful to hear a man telling a group of people a story about a green truck and hear his wife pipe up that "actually it was blue".I am very careful that I do not use this type of correction much.It usually is not respectful or necessary.Once in a while,if it is very important to have the exact facts,I will say something but I make sure it is not in a disrespectful way.
We will joke around alot and that is different.He may be telling a friend about the time he soaked me with the water hose and I won't hesitate to say "You did NOT! I was barely wet! YOU were the one who got soaked!" etc. etc. :)
I better make a disclaimer that if your husband wants to rob banks and have you be the one to hold the gun to the bank tellers head then NO,you should not refrain from correcting him, and you should not submit to him.
So there you go! Those are some of my opinions on this topic.
Week 1-Greet him with JOY when he comes home and then keep your words sweet for *at least* 15 minutes.
Week 2-Start your day strong! Take time to get your priorities straight.Pray for strength and read your Bible.
Week 3-Do not ever scold your husband!
Friday, January 20, 2012
Hygiene and Health
This is for Saturday because I will probably be busy! :)
Are you taking care of yourself? I am REALLY realizing that I can't take care of my family well at all if I don't take care of myself.
You NEED to take care of yourself!
Imagine the strength you would have if you got up in the morning and got dressed so that you feel you look NICE.Brush your teeth,fix your hair.........Do whatever you need to do to feel put together.
Have your quiet time.(Prayer/Scripture.)
Then go and have yourself a healthy breakfast and maybe even EXERCISE! ?
Scott leaves for work at 6:30.I am(usually) dressed with my hair fixed,teeth brushed and his lunch packed/coffee made by the time he leaves.I can have the baby nursed and 2 miles walked by 7:30.(The walking dvd that I do allows me to talk to Scott on the phone at the same time so that is great!)
7:30-8:00 I have my quiet time.
8:00-8:30 I eat breakfast
ALL that before we start school at 9:00!
Now,it does NOT always go that way for me! lol But that is what I am aiming for.I always change the baby,wipe him down,get him dressed etc. in that time too.I like to have that done before Scott leaves if he(baby) is awake.
Then of course,we ALL have alot of interruptions! lol BUT,even if I wasn't done with this morning routine until 8:30 or 9:30 that is still alot to get done in that time.
When I DO get it done I feel on top of the world! Such an excellent start, and it makes me much more faithful to my goals all throughout the day.
I love to:
Start laundry before Scott leaves for work.
Be dressed nice and even have on a necklace etc. before I kiss him good-bye.I *always* make sure I have fresh breath and I usually write him a note too.:)
Have a green smoothie for breakfast.It makes me feel like I started the day so healthy and really helps me to want to make healthier choices for the rest of the day.
Go in my room with the doors shut to pray in peace.I read my Bible out on the couch while holding/nursing the baby and keeping one eye and ear on everything going on lol.I also think it is good for the children to see me reading my Bible everyday.
Exercise in the AM! Just 20 minutes makes me feel SO good and cuts back on the rest of the exercise I have to/want to get done throughout the rest of the day.It REALLY gets you going! It also revvs up your metabolism right away.It is so good for you!
Cuddle with the little children while I read my Bible.
When a body has everything that it needs spiritually and physically it is ready to GO.When you start the day out like THAT,watch out! It is so much easier to OVERCOME the battles.
Do you have anything that you love to do in the morning that really helps you start your day well? Share please!
Are you taking care of yourself? I am REALLY realizing that I can't take care of my family well at all if I don't take care of myself.
You NEED to take care of yourself!
Imagine the strength you would have if you got up in the morning and got dressed so that you feel you look NICE.Brush your teeth,fix your hair.........Do whatever you need to do to feel put together.
Have your quiet time.(Prayer/Scripture.)
Then go and have yourself a healthy breakfast and maybe even EXERCISE! ?
Scott leaves for work at 6:30.I am(usually) dressed with my hair fixed,teeth brushed and his lunch packed/coffee made by the time he leaves.I can have the baby nursed and 2 miles walked by 7:30.(The walking dvd that I do allows me to talk to Scott on the phone at the same time so that is great!)
7:30-8:00 I have my quiet time.
8:00-8:30 I eat breakfast
ALL that before we start school at 9:00!
Now,it does NOT always go that way for me! lol But that is what I am aiming for.I always change the baby,wipe him down,get him dressed etc. in that time too.I like to have that done before Scott leaves if he(baby) is awake.
Then of course,we ALL have alot of interruptions! lol BUT,even if I wasn't done with this morning routine until 8:30 or 9:30 that is still alot to get done in that time.
When I DO get it done I feel on top of the world! Such an excellent start, and it makes me much more faithful to my goals all throughout the day.
I love to:
Start laundry before Scott leaves for work.
Be dressed nice and even have on a necklace etc. before I kiss him good-bye.I *always* make sure I have fresh breath and I usually write him a note too.:)
Have a green smoothie for breakfast.It makes me feel like I started the day so healthy and really helps me to want to make healthier choices for the rest of the day.
Go in my room with the doors shut to pray in peace.I read my Bible out on the couch while holding/nursing the baby and keeping one eye and ear on everything going on lol.I also think it is good for the children to see me reading my Bible everyday.
Exercise in the AM! Just 20 minutes makes me feel SO good and cuts back on the rest of the exercise I have to/want to get done throughout the rest of the day.It REALLY gets you going! It also revvs up your metabolism right away.It is so good for you!
Cuddle with the little children while I read my Bible.
When a body has everything that it needs spiritually and physically it is ready to GO.When you start the day out like THAT,watch out! It is so much easier to OVERCOME the battles.
Do you have anything that you love to do in the morning that really helps you start your day well? Share please!
Thankful list!!
Mine for this week:
1.I love that the other day he told me on the phone that he was talking to the most beautiful,wonderful,sweetest lady in the world.
2.I love that when I answer the phone and say "Hello!" He says "Lover....." lol
3.I love how he is really trying to make a point for us to take more showers together because we love it.(But have gotten out of the habit)
4.I love that he loves to have me near him whenever he can and NEVER gets tired of me or needs time away from me.
5.I love that he would never refer to me as his "old lady" or anything else like that.He hates those disrespectful labels.
Must I stop? lol I need to go downstairs and give him a great big kiss now! I am so happy it is Friday and I am going to to determine to treat him like the MAN this weekend! :)
Habit overview!
1.Greet your husband with JOY and keep your words sweet for *at least* 15 minutes after he gets home!
2.Start your day right with prayer,scripture,getting your head on straight! :)
Hope everyone is doing GREAT!!! If you have failed throughout the week do NOT get discouraged! Old habits are hard to break but if you persist,you CAN break them! Keep practicing and like anything else,you will get better and better!
Thursday, January 19, 2012
And whatsoever ye do..........
do it heartily,as to the Lord,and not unto men.
We need to always remember what the #1 reason is for being an excellent wife.
We do it because it is RIGHT.Not because our husbands deserve it (sometimes they don't).We most definitely do not always deserve to be loved "as Christ loved the church....." either do we?
Colossians 3:23 And whatsoever ye do,do it heartily,as to the Lord,and not unto men.
Ephesians 5:22 Wives,submit yourselves unto your own husbands,as unto the Lord.
I personally think my husband is pretty perfect (wink) and being an excellent wife to him is EASY most of the time because he is such a wonderful man AND I know his heart.
BUT.......We all have those times when we don't want to bite our tongue.We don't want to respect him.We don't want to keep quiet.We want to throw a little fit.We don't LIKE the decision he is making.
At those times we need to remember to look past him and unto Christ.
Our men are carnal,we are carnal.
The Lord ALWAYS deserves our obedience,our respect,our honour,our love.
So next time you find it hard to do what you SHOULD do,be it to your husband, your mother-in law,your next door neighbor, your child, or the lady at the grocery store.Try to look past them and see the LORD.
HE is why we do what we do and HE will give us the strength to be able to do it.
Psalm 18:1-2
I WILL love thee,O Lord,my strength.
The Lord is my rock,and my fortress,and my deliverer,my God,my strength,in whom I will trust;my buckler,and the horn of my salvation,and my high tower.
Psalm 46:1
God is our refuge and strength,a very present help in trouble.
Our new habits........
Week 1~Greet our husbands with Joy and keep our words sweet for 15 min (at least!).
Week 2~Start our days in prayer and with scripture.Drawing strength from the Lord.
We need to always remember what the #1 reason is for being an excellent wife.
We do it because it is RIGHT.Not because our husbands deserve it (sometimes they don't).We most definitely do not always deserve to be loved "as Christ loved the church....." either do we?
Colossians 3:23 And whatsoever ye do,do it heartily,as to the Lord,and not unto men.
Ephesians 5:22 Wives,submit yourselves unto your own husbands,as unto the Lord.
I personally think my husband is pretty perfect (wink) and being an excellent wife to him is EASY most of the time because he is such a wonderful man AND I know his heart.
BUT.......We all have those times when we don't want to bite our tongue.We don't want to respect him.We don't want to keep quiet.We want to throw a little fit.We don't LIKE the decision he is making.
At those times we need to remember to look past him and unto Christ.
Our men are carnal,we are carnal.
The Lord ALWAYS deserves our obedience,our respect,our honour,our love.
So next time you find it hard to do what you SHOULD do,be it to your husband, your mother-in law,your next door neighbor, your child, or the lady at the grocery store.Try to look past them and see the LORD.
HE is why we do what we do and HE will give us the strength to be able to do it.
Psalm 18:1-2
I WILL love thee,O Lord,my strength.
The Lord is my rock,and my fortress,and my deliverer,my God,my strength,in whom I will trust;my buckler,and the horn of my salvation,and my high tower.
Psalm 46:1
God is our refuge and strength,a very present help in trouble.
Our new habits........
Week 1~Greet our husbands with Joy and keep our words sweet for 15 min (at least!).
Week 2~Start our days in prayer and with scripture.Drawing strength from the Lord.
Wednesday, January 18, 2012
Children preventing you......
from starting your day right?
I want to add here that I am NOT saying that every christian MUST start their day with reading scripture/prayer.Just that it helps me ALOT and that I think it is a REALLY good idea :). I don't judge anyone who decided that it works best for them in the afternoon or evening etc. Promise :).
Now,child training........
Can you sit your children down (2yo and up at least),tell them to stay and expect that they will happily listen?If not,I encourage you to spend some time training the children.I have seen so many mothers SO stressed because they can't get their children to sit still and be quiet for any amount of time.
They can't read their Bibles or pray because the children might trash the house out.
They can't have any alone time with their husbands at night because the children won't stay in bed.
It does NOT have to be this way!If you can't tell your children "Time for bed!" and fully expect that they will go to bed and stay in their beds,you have a problem.:)Do not accept it as normal child behaviour because it is not.
I am not going to talk about child training methods here.I will say the following.
1.Mean what you say and say what you mean.
2.Make sure that you surround them with love,praise and smiles.
Training your children will make such a difference in your life! Happier Mammas/Daddies and children!
Are you still greeting your husband with joy? Still keeping your words sweet when he comes in after work?
I got my prayer/scripture reading in today but it was divided and I didn't read as much scripture as I wanted! I will get this habit down pat!
I want to add here that I am NOT saying that every christian MUST start their day with reading scripture/prayer.Just that it helps me ALOT and that I think it is a REALLY good idea :). I don't judge anyone who decided that it works best for them in the afternoon or evening etc. Promise :).
Now,child training........
Can you sit your children down (2yo and up at least),tell them to stay and expect that they will happily listen?If not,I encourage you to spend some time training the children.I have seen so many mothers SO stressed because they can't get their children to sit still and be quiet for any amount of time.
They can't read their Bibles or pray because the children might trash the house out.
They can't have any alone time with their husbands at night because the children won't stay in bed.
It does NOT have to be this way!If you can't tell your children "Time for bed!" and fully expect that they will go to bed and stay in their beds,you have a problem.:)Do not accept it as normal child behaviour because it is not.
I am not going to talk about child training methods here.I will say the following.
1.Mean what you say and say what you mean.
2.Make sure that you surround them with love,praise and smiles.
Training your children will make such a difference in your life! Happier Mammas/Daddies and children!
Are you still greeting your husband with joy? Still keeping your words sweet when he comes in after work?
I got my prayer/scripture reading in today but it was divided and I didn't read as much scripture as I wanted! I will get this habit down pat!
Tuesday, January 17, 2012
Preparation........
It sure makes us alot more prone to success!
Think of it......
Is it wise to wait until your toddler throws a temper tantrum before you decide what you feel about child training?
What about not cutting any firewood until the first snowstorm hits?
Or waiting until 4:45 to think about what you are going to serve for supper at 5:00?
It just makes SENSE to prepare yourself in the MORNING to deal with the many challenges of the day.
If you are a wife who wants to be an EXCELLENT wife,you have very much to do and remember.If you are home all day surrounded by little children who need a patient,loving mother to teach them and correct them,you have even MORE to remember! lol
I find that if I am not mentally prepared.If my mind is not where it should be,I can get my priorities mixed up in about 1 minute.Some mornings I am correcting before I even get out of bed......Even while my eyes are still closed! Just this last weekend I was enjoying sleeping in a little and I heard my two little boys in the other room arguing and with my eyes closed I said "Ezekiel? Is that how you talk to your brother? Are you considering him first?" lol It just never stops does it? Not until their little eyes are all closed and they are sweetly sleeping for the night.....(Such a wonderful feeling isn't it? To have all of your babies safe and sound in bed?)
Oh but then you still have that wonderful man to be sweet and patient with...........:):)
I would not change my life for anything in the entire world.It has always been my dream to have a husband who loves me that I can wait on hand and foot and plenty of children to teach. :)
BUT that doesn't mean I don't lose sight of my priorities and act in ways I shouldn't when life gets hectic!
If I PREPARE.............If I read the wonderful scriptures that are full of such wisdom and help.If I pray to the Lord for strength.If I take a moment to remember what life is all about,what my job is,what is important,what is NOT important.
If I put on my ARMOUR before heading into my day...............
I do MUCH better! I am a much better wife and mother.
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How are you doing? I got my morning quiet time in today but I will admit that this is going to be a challenge for me.It is something I have wanted to make a habit for YEARS now and just never do consistently.I am just tooooo busy.(excuse)
I am still greeting my husband and being sweet with my words when he gets here!
I wanted to share this tiny (but HUGE) bit of wisdom that came to me this morning as I was writing down all of the things I wanted to work on.I looked at my list and thought "How am I going to even remember all that?" Then it hit me that this wonderful scripture covered pretty much everything I wanted to work on........
James 1:19 Wherefore,my beloved brethren,let every man be swift to hear,slow to speak,and slow to wrath.
Wow.........Honestly,so often I am just the OPPOSITE.
Slow to hear,quick to speak and quick to anger.......
Pathetic huh?
Well I am off for now!
Think of it......
Is it wise to wait until your toddler throws a temper tantrum before you decide what you feel about child training?
What about not cutting any firewood until the first snowstorm hits?
Or waiting until 4:45 to think about what you are going to serve for supper at 5:00?
It just makes SENSE to prepare yourself in the MORNING to deal with the many challenges of the day.
If you are a wife who wants to be an EXCELLENT wife,you have very much to do and remember.If you are home all day surrounded by little children who need a patient,loving mother to teach them and correct them,you have even MORE to remember! lol
I find that if I am not mentally prepared.If my mind is not where it should be,I can get my priorities mixed up in about 1 minute.Some mornings I am correcting before I even get out of bed......Even while my eyes are still closed! Just this last weekend I was enjoying sleeping in a little and I heard my two little boys in the other room arguing and with my eyes closed I said "Ezekiel? Is that how you talk to your brother? Are you considering him first?" lol It just never stops does it? Not until their little eyes are all closed and they are sweetly sleeping for the night.....(Such a wonderful feeling isn't it? To have all of your babies safe and sound in bed?)
Oh but then you still have that wonderful man to be sweet and patient with...........:):)
I would not change my life for anything in the entire world.It has always been my dream to have a husband who loves me that I can wait on hand and foot and plenty of children to teach. :)
BUT that doesn't mean I don't lose sight of my priorities and act in ways I shouldn't when life gets hectic!
If I PREPARE.............If I read the wonderful scriptures that are full of such wisdom and help.If I pray to the Lord for strength.If I take a moment to remember what life is all about,what my job is,what is important,what is NOT important.
If I put on my ARMOUR before heading into my day...............
I do MUCH better! I am a much better wife and mother.
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How are you doing? I got my morning quiet time in today but I will admit that this is going to be a challenge for me.It is something I have wanted to make a habit for YEARS now and just never do consistently.I am just tooooo busy.(excuse)
I am still greeting my husband and being sweet with my words when he gets here!
I wanted to share this tiny (but HUGE) bit of wisdom that came to me this morning as I was writing down all of the things I wanted to work on.I looked at my list and thought "How am I going to even remember all that?" Then it hit me that this wonderful scripture covered pretty much everything I wanted to work on........
James 1:19 Wherefore,my beloved brethren,let every man be swift to hear,slow to speak,and slow to wrath.
Wow.........Honestly,so often I am just the OPPOSITE.
Slow to hear,quick to speak and quick to anger.......
Pathetic huh?
Well I am off for now!
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