Or God's way?
The world says that marriage should be 50/50. That *sounds* good, but it isn't.Just look around at the world's marriages.Most marriages are bad.It's true.How many people do you know of with a blissfully happy marriage?
Marriage should be 100/100.Each of you should be putting 100% into your marriage, always.
If he only puts 10%,you *still* put 100%.
It may sound crazy, but it isn't.
It is a perfect and wonderful plan.
Week 1-Greet him with JOY when he comes home and then keep your words sweet for *at least* 15 minutes.
Week 2-Start your day strong! Take time to get your priorities straight.Pray for strength and read your Bible.
Week 3-Never scold your husband.
Week 4-.Be determined to be what the Lord desires you to do be regardless of what your husband does or how he acts.
How has everyone been doing? Have your husbands noticed and differences?How are *you* feeling?What have you learned?
I have been doing great on 1&3......They aren't issues for me.
2- I have been having a harder time remembering! The morning just slips away from me sometimes! I have only missed a couple of days though! Sometimes I start later than I would like.I WILL keep working at it!
4- I have been doing great but this is something that I *always* have to work on.
On a fun note,what is everyone doing for Valentines day? :)
Guess what we are doing? lol We are planning to *get together* (if you know what I mean *wink*) :) every.single.day this month! lol It will be fun! I dare you to try it with your husband! :)
I am off for now.......Scott will be home soon and I want to be in decent clothes! :):):)
Showing posts with label Marriage challenge week 4.. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Marriage challenge week 4.. Show all posts
Wednesday, February 1, 2012
Tuesday, January 31, 2012
Influencing Our Husbands?
Week 1-Greet him with JOY when he comes home and then keep your words sweet for *at least* 15 minutes.
Week 2-Start your day strong! Take time to get your priorities straight.Pray for strength and read your Bible.
Week 3-Never scold your husband.
Then THIS week is........
Week 4-Be determined to be what the Lord desires you to do be regardless of what your husband does or how he acts
My dear friend Tina,from A gentle Mother,shared this with me and I thought it fit PERFECT with our topic this week.Here it is........
"How can she (a wife) make sure that her influence over her husband will be for good, that he will be a better man, more successful in his career and more happy because she is his wife? Not by any mere moral posturing so as to seem to have lofty purpose and wise thoughts of life; not by having any weak resolving to help him and be an uplifting inspiration to him; not by perpetual preaching and lecturing on a husband's duties and on manly character; she can only do it by being in the very depths of her soul, in every thought and impulse of her heart and in every fibre of her nature, a true and noble woman. She will make him not like what she tells him he ought to be, but like what she herself is."
~J.R. Miller Home-Making (aka The Family Life) 1882
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Such wonderful stuff.........We need to be sure that we are doing what we are doing for the Lord.It needs to be what we ARE because of HIM.If you are trying to be a good wife so that your husband will change,you have the wrong attitude.You need to strive to be godly because it is what you ARE.
If we are only acting in certain ways for a time so that we can influence,it won't work.I have had people try the things I talk about here and after a few weeks they say "It's not WORKING!"
That is the wrong attitude.
Strive to serve the Lord.
Strive to do his will.
Study his word.
Pray to him for wisdom and strength.
Seek to please HIM everyday.
Change for HIM.
HE will do the work..............He has a plan and you have no idea what it is.
Become the kind of wife that the Lord wants you to be, expecting NOTHING from your husband.
This is the attitude you must have.
We can be a huge influence on our husbands but it has to be what we ARE.
Not what we are for a few weeks because we are trying to change him........
Week 2-Start your day strong! Take time to get your priorities straight.Pray for strength and read your Bible.
Week 3-Never scold your husband.
Then THIS week is........
Week 4-Be determined to be what the Lord desires you to do be regardless of what your husband does or how he acts
My dear friend Tina,from A gentle Mother,shared this with me and I thought it fit PERFECT with our topic this week.Here it is........
"How can she (a wife) make sure that her influence over her husband will be for good, that he will be a better man, more successful in his career and more happy because she is his wife? Not by any mere moral posturing so as to seem to have lofty purpose and wise thoughts of life; not by having any weak resolving to help him and be an uplifting inspiration to him; not by perpetual preaching and lecturing on a husband's duties and on manly character; she can only do it by being in the very depths of her soul, in every thought and impulse of her heart and in every fibre of her nature, a true and noble woman. She will make him not like what she tells him he ought to be, but like what she herself is."
~J.R. Miller Home-Making (aka The Family Life) 1882
~~~~~~~~~~~~
Such wonderful stuff.........We need to be sure that we are doing what we are doing for the Lord.It needs to be what we ARE because of HIM.If you are trying to be a good wife so that your husband will change,you have the wrong attitude.You need to strive to be godly because it is what you ARE.
If we are only acting in certain ways for a time so that we can influence,it won't work.I have had people try the things I talk about here and after a few weeks they say "It's not WORKING!"
That is the wrong attitude.
Strive to serve the Lord.
Strive to do his will.
Study his word.
Pray to him for wisdom and strength.
Seek to please HIM everyday.
Change for HIM.
HE will do the work..............He has a plan and you have no idea what it is.
Become the kind of wife that the Lord wants you to be, expecting NOTHING from your husband.
This is the attitude you must have.
We can be a huge influence on our husbands but it has to be what we ARE.
Not what we are for a few weeks because we are trying to change him........
Monday, January 30, 2012
The biggest marriage stumbling block.......
First of all,I am sorry that I have not written ANYTHING in the last 2 days! I missed Friday,planned on catching up on Saturday and then I was in town until 3:00!!!!! After that it was date night and the time just slipped away...........Sunday is just a "How did you do this week?" day and since only a couple people actually tell me how they are doing...........:):):):) I didn't think it was that important to do Sunday.:)
I *DO* have 8 weeks of things planned though! I literally have *something* planned every day for the next 5 weeks so I am not quitting! :) Even though no one is *saying* anything I see plenty of traffic here so I am assuming that people are still reading and just to busy to post which is FINE! :):)
So let us proceed with week 4! :):):)
I want to say here that everything I am writing comes from *my* experiences.These are the things I have learned and have come to believe throughout the 15 years that I have been a wife.I want to share them with others.I don't claim to be perfect and I do expect you to be considering your OWN husband and his desires as you go along here.All marriages are different.
Now that that is said.......... :)
Week four is about what I believe is the biggest marriage stumbling block.It is actually the biggest relationship stumbling block PERIOD.
"I will do what I am supposed to do if you do what you are supposed to do."
Yep..........We ALL know about that one.
The habit for week 4 is something that you will have to work on every day for the rest of your life.( me too)
Here it is.........
Be determined to be what the Lord desires you to do be regardless of what your husband does or how he acts.
It's that simple.
You say "Well what about him????? What about the things HE is supposed to do?"
What about them? Can you force him to do those things? No more than he can force YOU to do the things YOU should do for him.
You say "Why is it all the woman? Why does the woman have to do all the changing?"
It is NOT all the woman.Both woman AND man will face the Lord someday.He does not require any more from a woman than he does a man.
He commands women to serve HIM with all of their heart and soul.
He commands men to serve HIM with all of their heart and soul.
Will you face the Lord someday and tell him "Lord,I was not obedient to you because my husband was not being obedient to you."
No.
Well,you might try it but it won't get you anywhere.
Be determined to be what the Lord desires you to do be regardless of what your husband does or how he acts.
If you are a christian,your job is to serve the Lord and if you are a wife,part of that job is to serve your husband.
1 Corinthians 11:3
But I would have you know,that the head of every man is Christ;and the head of the woman is the man;and the head of Christ is God.
1 Corinthians 3:9
Neither was the man created for the woman;but the woman for the man.
Ephesians 5:22-24
Wives,submit yourselves unto your own husbands,as unto the Lord.
For the husband is the head of the wife,even as Christ is the head of the church:and he is the saviour of the body.
Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ,so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
Read 1st Peter chapter 3.
THIS is your job.It is not your job to make sure that your husband is doing his job.Your job is to follow the Lord's commandments.
This is what week 4 is about.........
Be determined to be what the Lord desires you to do be regardless of what your husband does or how he acts.
When a situation happens that makes it hard for you to respect your husband like you should........Look past him and see Christ.
Do it for Christ.
Do it because you want to be a godly woman.
Share your thoughts here about 1 Peter chapter 3!!!!!!
I *DO* have 8 weeks of things planned though! I literally have *something* planned every day for the next 5 weeks so I am not quitting! :) Even though no one is *saying* anything I see plenty of traffic here so I am assuming that people are still reading and just to busy to post which is FINE! :):)
So let us proceed with week 4! :):):)
I want to say here that everything I am writing comes from *my* experiences.These are the things I have learned and have come to believe throughout the 15 years that I have been a wife.I want to share them with others.I don't claim to be perfect and I do expect you to be considering your OWN husband and his desires as you go along here.All marriages are different.
Now that that is said.......... :)
Week four is about what I believe is the biggest marriage stumbling block.It is actually the biggest relationship stumbling block PERIOD.
"I will do what I am supposed to do if you do what you are supposed to do."
Yep..........We ALL know about that one.
The habit for week 4 is something that you will have to work on every day for the rest of your life.( me too)
Here it is.........
Be determined to be what the Lord desires you to do be regardless of what your husband does or how he acts.
It's that simple.
You say "Well what about him????? What about the things HE is supposed to do?"
What about them? Can you force him to do those things? No more than he can force YOU to do the things YOU should do for him.
You say "Why is it all the woman? Why does the woman have to do all the changing?"
It is NOT all the woman.Both woman AND man will face the Lord someday.He does not require any more from a woman than he does a man.
He commands women to serve HIM with all of their heart and soul.
He commands men to serve HIM with all of their heart and soul.
Will you face the Lord someday and tell him "Lord,I was not obedient to you because my husband was not being obedient to you."
No.
Well,you might try it but it won't get you anywhere.
Be determined to be what the Lord desires you to do be regardless of what your husband does or how he acts.
If you are a christian,your job is to serve the Lord and if you are a wife,part of that job is to serve your husband.
1 Corinthians 11:3
But I would have you know,that the head of every man is Christ;and the head of the woman is the man;and the head of Christ is God.
1 Corinthians 3:9
Neither was the man created for the woman;but the woman for the man.
Ephesians 5:22-24
Wives,submit yourselves unto your own husbands,as unto the Lord.
For the husband is the head of the wife,even as Christ is the head of the church:and he is the saviour of the body.
Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ,so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
Read 1st Peter chapter 3.
THIS is your job.It is not your job to make sure that your husband is doing his job.Your job is to follow the Lord's commandments.
This is what week 4 is about.........
Be determined to be what the Lord desires you to do be regardless of what your husband does or how he acts.
When a situation happens that makes it hard for you to respect your husband like you should........Look past him and see Christ.
Do it for Christ.
Do it because you want to be a godly woman.
Share your thoughts here about 1 Peter chapter 3!!!!!!
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