What if cheating/divorcing was perfectly acceptable to God? (That IS a capital G btw)

What if you knew that every day your husband would leave your home and step out into a world where beautiful,inviting women were everywhere trying to seduce your him?Happy,smiling women who would dote on him and cater to his every desire?

That *IS* what alot of men face every day to some degree.

But what if it were not wrong for him to be with another woman or to divorce you?

What if the only thing keeping your husband with you was his love for you? What if it was perfectly OK and acceptable for him to kick you out and bring another woman in?

How much more effort would you put into your marriage? How much more would you smile and how much less would you complain? How often would you turn his advances and how often would you initiate sex? How much more willing would you be to get creative with him in the bedroom?How much effort would you take to keep yourself looking attractive? How good would you do at keeping your weight under control?How happy would you be to see him when he got home?How much would you criticize him? How much more attention would you pay to the things you know he loves/hates? How much better would you do at keeping your home the way he likes?

I thank God for his wonderful plan in marriage.I thank God for a godly man who won't just leave me if I fail BUT.......


Do you depend upon your husband's christianity, or his vows to you, to keep him faithful to you?

You shouldn't.

Good,GODLY men fall everyday.The apple of God's eye (David) fell.He not only took someone elses wife, but he then had him KILLED.

I don't want my husband to turn away from temptation because he HAS to, but because he loves me so much that he *want's to*.

I want to respect him so much,satisfy his needs,his eyes,his mind,his EVERYTHING so that every other woman pales in comparison to me.I want to HELP him overcome temptation.I want to be the woman he can't wait to get home to,not the one he HAS to come home to.

Genesis 2:18 And the Lord God said,It is not good that the man should be alone;I will make him an help meet for him.

Don't assume that because your husband is a goldy man that he can't do wrong or that he won't ever leave you or be unfaithful to you no matter how you treat him.Sadly,many women have found out differently.

Assume that you are in competition with women who would lead your husband astray.

You ARE!

I don't mean to imply that every time a husband cheats on his wife that it is the WIFE'S fault.Not at all.There are some men and women out there who would cheat no matter how perfect their spouse was.

What I *am* saying is to *not* depend on your husbands christianity to keep him from doing wrong.Be the HELPER the Lord designed you to be.

When he comes home to you at night make SURE to make him REALLY feel that "there is no place like home"!

Make sure he has NO DOUBT how delighted and thankful you are to see him/have him!

Pay attention to your facial expression and tone! Look in the mirror and practice if you have to! STOP what you are doing when you see him and surprise him with a huge hug and a suggestive kiss.It only takes a minute!

Remember......Nothing negative for atleast 15 minutes after he comes home! :):)

Let me know how you are doing! Last night I not only greeted him properly :):) but I raced to the top of our drive way (no small task) to meet him! He loved it :).

I wanted to offer.......

Since I trust all of you who joined this challenge I wanted to offer to pass around my Love and Respect dvd's. They will make you laugh like crazy.....cry too......and I can guarantee that you will learn SO many wonderful things.They are about men AND women.I can't rave ENOUGH about these.They are fantastic!

Here are a few you tube video........

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_emEpRueGRU

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gnHm82SqE8E&feature=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L-K76jdnHC0&feature=related

lol Just watching those makes me want to watch the dvd's again!!!!

So.....Brandy has them now and when she is done she is sending them to Tina (who is not here yet).Grace has already seen them and I am sure she will give you some good reviews.As you reply below I will add you to the list!

Oh and I also have the Pearls marriage dvd which is ALSO absolutely fantastic!!!! Brandy has it too and can send it along with the Love and Respect dvd's.They say the same things but in totally different styles! lol I LOVE them both!


Brandy
Tina
Nataly
Tanya
Debbie

Marriage challenge for the new year!

I know,I know...............I never posted ANY recipes! I even took pictures and EVERYTHING.That is SO embarrassing! Life just got so busy and blogging was put on the back burner.....AGAIN.

AND.......I know......I am always talking about marriage stuff.I just have such a desire to help other couples have the same happiness in their marriages that my husband and I have in ours.It also helps that there are SO many struggling!I am sure that most of us have loved ones and friends that are in unhappy marriages and it really HURTS when you KNOW that it does not have to be that way!

SO......I am going to commit to blogging about this for the next 8 weeks.8 weeks to learn 8 new habits.They won't be huge things either but very doable things.Every Monday I will post a new habit to work on and then I will try to post a couple of times each week with more discussion about what we are working on.

I have no idea how many people are even still READING my blog as I do such a bad job of updating regularly but that's ok.The information will be here for anyone in the future.

I am going to post NOW for Monday.......

Habit #1 has is simply to greet your husband with delight when he comes home from work and then dedicate the first 15 minutes to speaking NOTHING negative.No complaints,whining,moping or bad attitudes.

Make sure that the second he lays eyes on you he sees pure JOY.Make sure he KNOWS that you are THRILLED to see him.Smiles,hugs,kisses,body language,TONE of voice.

If you see or hear him coming,meeting him at the door is great but *atleast* make sure that he sees you light up with happiness whenever you DO see him and he sees you and again,be determined that you will speak nothing but good,happy,encouraging things for the first 15 minutes.

SIMPLE :):) Such a simple thing but can make a huge difference!