What if you knew that every day your husband would leave your home and step out into a world where beautiful,inviting women were everywhere trying to seduce your him?Happy,smiling women who would dote on him and cater to his every desire?
That *IS* what alot of men face every day to some degree.
But what if it were not wrong for him to be with another woman or to divorce you?
What if the only thing keeping your husband with you was his love for you? What if it was perfectly OK and acceptable for him to kick you out and bring another woman in?
How much more effort would you put into your marriage? How much more would you smile and how much less would you complain? How often would you turn his advances and how often would you initiate sex? How much more willing would you be to get creative with him in the bedroom?How much effort would you take to keep yourself looking attractive? How good would you do at keeping your weight under control?How happy would you be to see him when he got home?How much would you criticize him? How much more attention would you pay to the things you know he loves/hates? How much better would you do at keeping your home the way he likes?
I thank God for his wonderful plan in marriage.I thank God for a godly man who won't just leave me if I fail BUT.......
Do you depend upon your husband's christianity, or his vows to you, to keep him faithful to you?
You shouldn't.
Good,GODLY men fall everyday.The apple of God's eye (David) fell.He not only took someone elses wife, but he then had him KILLED.
I don't want my husband to turn away from temptation because he HAS to, but because he loves me so much that he *want's to*.
I want to respect him so much,satisfy his needs,his eyes,his mind,his EVERYTHING so that every other woman pales in comparison to me.I want to HELP him overcome temptation.I want to be the woman he can't wait to get home to,not the one he HAS to come home to.
Genesis 2:18 And the Lord God said,It is not good that the man should be alone;I will make him an help meet for him.
Don't assume that because your husband is a goldy man that he can't do wrong or that he won't ever leave you or be unfaithful to you no matter how you treat him.Sadly,many women have found out differently.
Assume that you are in competition with women who would lead your husband astray.
You ARE!
I don't mean to imply that every time a husband cheats on his wife that it is the WIFE'S fault.Not at all.There are some men and women out there who would cheat no matter how perfect their spouse was.
What I *am* saying is to *not* depend on your husbands christianity to keep him from doing wrong.Be the HELPER the Lord designed you to be.
When he comes home to you at night make SURE to make him REALLY feel that "there is no place like home"!
Make sure he has NO DOUBT how delighted and thankful you are to see him/have him!
Pay attention to your facial expression and tone! Look in the mirror and practice if you have to! STOP what you are doing when you see him and surprise him with a huge hug and a suggestive kiss.It only takes a minute!
Remember......Nothing negative for atleast 15 minutes after he comes home! :):)
Let me know how you are doing! Last night I not only greeted him properly :):) but I raced to the top of our drive way (no small task) to meet him! He loved it :).
Saturday, January 7, 2012
I wanted to offer.......
Since I trust all of you who joined this challenge I wanted to offer to pass around my Love and Respect dvd's. They will make you laugh like crazy.....cry too......and I can guarantee that you will learn SO many wonderful things.They are about men AND women.I can't rave ENOUGH about these.They are fantastic!
Here are a few you tube video........
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_emEpRueGRU
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gnHm82SqE8E&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L-K76jdnHC0&feature=related
lol Just watching those makes me want to watch the dvd's again!!!!
So.....Brandy has them now and when she is done she is sending them to Tina (who is not here yet).Grace has already seen them and I am sure she will give you some good reviews.As you reply below I will add you to the list!
Oh and I also have the Pearls marriage dvd which is ALSO absolutely fantastic!!!! Brandy has it too and can send it along with the Love and Respect dvd's.They say the same things but in totally different styles! lol I LOVE them both!
Brandy
Tina
Nataly
Tanya
Debbie
Here are a few you tube video........
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_emEpRueGRU
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gnHm82SqE8E&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L-K76jdnHC0&feature=related
lol Just watching those makes me want to watch the dvd's again!!!!
So.....Brandy has them now and when she is done she is sending them to Tina (who is not here yet).Grace has already seen them and I am sure she will give you some good reviews.As you reply below I will add you to the list!
Oh and I also have the Pearls marriage dvd which is ALSO absolutely fantastic!!!! Brandy has it too and can send it along with the Love and Respect dvd's.They say the same things but in totally different styles! lol I LOVE them both!
Brandy
Tina
Nataly
Tanya
Debbie
Friday, January 6, 2012
Marriage challenge for the new year!
I know,I know...............I never posted ANY recipes! I even took pictures and EVERYTHING.That is SO embarrassing! Life just got so busy and blogging was put on the back burner.....AGAIN.
AND.......I know......I am always talking about marriage stuff.I just have such a desire to help other couples have the same happiness in their marriages that my husband and I have in ours.It also helps that there are SO many struggling!I am sure that most of us have loved ones and friends that are in unhappy marriages and it really HURTS when you KNOW that it does not have to be that way!
SO......I am going to commit to blogging about this for the next 8 weeks.8 weeks to learn 8 new habits.They won't be huge things either but very doable things.Every Monday I will post a new habit to work on and then I will try to post a couple of times each week with more discussion about what we are working on.
I have no idea how many people are even still READING my blog as I do such a bad job of updating regularly but that's ok.The information will be here for anyone in the future.
I am going to post NOW for Monday.......
Habit #1 has is simply to greet your husband with delight when he comes home from work and then dedicate the first 15 minutes to speaking NOTHING negative.No complaints,whining,moping or bad attitudes.
Make sure that the second he lays eyes on you he sees pure JOY.Make sure he KNOWS that you are THRILLED to see him.Smiles,hugs,kisses,body language,TONE of voice.
If you see or hear him coming,meeting him at the door is great but *atleast* make sure that he sees you light up with happiness whenever you DO see him and he sees you and again,be determined that you will speak nothing but good,happy,encouraging things for the first 15 minutes.
SIMPLE :):) Such a simple thing but can make a huge difference!
AND.......I know......I am always talking about marriage stuff.I just have such a desire to help other couples have the same happiness in their marriages that my husband and I have in ours.It also helps that there are SO many struggling!I am sure that most of us have loved ones and friends that are in unhappy marriages and it really HURTS when you KNOW that it does not have to be that way!
SO......I am going to commit to blogging about this for the next 8 weeks.8 weeks to learn 8 new habits.They won't be huge things either but very doable things.Every Monday I will post a new habit to work on and then I will try to post a couple of times each week with more discussion about what we are working on.
I have no idea how many people are even still READING my blog as I do such a bad job of updating regularly but that's ok.The information will be here for anyone in the future.
I am going to post NOW for Monday.......
Habit #1 has is simply to greet your husband with delight when he comes home from work and then dedicate the first 15 minutes to speaking NOTHING negative.No complaints,whining,moping or bad attitudes.
Make sure that the second he lays eyes on you he sees pure JOY.Make sure he KNOWS that you are THRILLED to see him.Smiles,hugs,kisses,body language,TONE of voice.
If you see or hear him coming,meeting him at the door is great but *atleast* make sure that he sees you light up with happiness whenever you DO see him and he sees you and again,be determined that you will speak nothing but good,happy,encouraging things for the first 15 minutes.
SIMPLE :):) Such a simple thing but can make a huge difference!
Friday, December 16, 2011
Look for an overload of recipes soon!
We had a kitchen day today which I am going to blog about and we are making lots and lots of candy/desserts tomorrow for us and to give away to family/friends! I plan on posting all of the recipes and lots of pictures! Is anyone baking/making anything really delicious that I need to try???????
Friday, December 9, 2011
I was sitting on the couch last night.........
and I looked around and realized that there really *were* children everywhere lol.
One child making a cake.
One child doing a math lessons.
One child zooming around on a little riding toy.
One child hugging Daddy.
One child nursing and
2 children playing in the playroom.
I could see them all from where I sat and I was just overwhelmed with thankfulness!
It wasn't hectic......It wasn't even really noisy but it was just a pleasant sound.Busy,happy voices of children all around..(I didn't mean to rhyme lol)
I tried to imagine if it was just dh and I! ahhhhhhh I can't imagine.
Or if we just had one or two children........Nope,can't imagine.
In ten years from now we will have a 23yo,21yo,18yo,16yo,14yo,12yo, and a 10yo PLUS,if we keep having babies every 2 years like we have so far we could have an 8yo,6yo,4yo,2yo and a newborn!!!!! lol That seems IMPOSSIBLE!!!!!! lol I am already FULLY blessed and if I didn't have anymore babies I could not complain but it would also be amazing to have that many more.
I really can't believe we have SEVEN children.I can remember my first being layed on my chest and being in amazement that I was finally a mother.I kept saying "I finally have my OWN baby".I had always dreamed of being a mother.I couldn't wait until I could DO things with him.I wanted to bake cookies,do fun projetcs......Wow lol life sure is different now and that baby is 13.An amazing boy.
Scott and I are loving this stage of life.We are starting to have oldER children plus we still have our babies.It is really quite awesome!
One child making a cake.
One child doing a math lessons.
One child zooming around on a little riding toy.
One child hugging Daddy.
One child nursing and
2 children playing in the playroom.
I could see them all from where I sat and I was just overwhelmed with thankfulness!
It wasn't hectic......It wasn't even really noisy but it was just a pleasant sound.Busy,happy voices of children all around..(I didn't mean to rhyme lol)
I tried to imagine if it was just dh and I! ahhhhhhh I can't imagine.
Or if we just had one or two children........Nope,can't imagine.
In ten years from now we will have a 23yo,21yo,18yo,16yo,14yo,12yo, and a 10yo PLUS,if we keep having babies every 2 years like we have so far we could have an 8yo,6yo,4yo,2yo and a newborn!!!!! lol That seems IMPOSSIBLE!!!!!! lol I am already FULLY blessed and if I didn't have anymore babies I could not complain but it would also be amazing to have that many more.
I really can't believe we have SEVEN children.I can remember my first being layed on my chest and being in amazement that I was finally a mother.I kept saying "I finally have my OWN baby".I had always dreamed of being a mother.I couldn't wait until I could DO things with him.I wanted to bake cookies,do fun projetcs......Wow lol life sure is different now and that baby is 13.An amazing boy.
Scott and I are loving this stage of life.We are starting to have oldER children plus we still have our babies.It is really quite awesome!
Tuesday, December 6, 2011
Cowboy cookies for my 6yo (HM quart jar mix)
I am doing a fun project with each of the children and my 6yo ds and I are going to make up a bunch of these :).He can make his special cookies for the family and he will feel So proud! :)
Cowboy Cookies (In a jar mix)
1 1/3 cups rolled oats
1/2 cup packed brown sugar
1/2 cup white sugar
1/2 cup chopped pecans
1 cup semisweet chocolate chips
1 1/3 cups all-purpose flour
1 teaspoon baking powder
1 teaspoon baking soda
1/4 teaspoon salt
Directions
1.Layer the ingredients in a 1 quart jar in the order given. Press each layer firmly in place before adding the next layer.
2.Include a card with the following instructions: Cowboy Cookie Mix in a Jar 1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Grease cookie sheets. 2. In a medium bowl, mix together 1/2 cup melted butter or margarine, 1 egg, and 1 teaspoon of vanilla. Stir in the entire contents of the jar. You may need to use your hands to finish mixing. Shape into walnut sized balls. Place 2 inches apart on prepared cookie sheets. 3. Bake for 11 to 13 minutes in the preheated oven. Transfer from cookie sheets to cool on wire racks.
Cowboy Cookies (In a jar mix)
1 1/3 cups rolled oats
1/2 cup packed brown sugar
1/2 cup white sugar
1/2 cup chopped pecans
1 cup semisweet chocolate chips
1 1/3 cups all-purpose flour
1 teaspoon baking powder
1 teaspoon baking soda
1/4 teaspoon salt
Directions
1.Layer the ingredients in a 1 quart jar in the order given. Press each layer firmly in place before adding the next layer.
2.Include a card with the following instructions: Cowboy Cookie Mix in a Jar 1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Grease cookie sheets. 2. In a medium bowl, mix together 1/2 cup melted butter or margarine, 1 egg, and 1 teaspoon of vanilla. Stir in the entire contents of the jar. You may need to use your hands to finish mixing. Shape into walnut sized balls. Place 2 inches apart on prepared cookie sheets. 3. Bake for 11 to 13 minutes in the preheated oven. Transfer from cookie sheets to cool on wire racks.
Monday, December 5, 2011
Connecting with your children when........
you have LOTS of them!
It hit me the other day that some days I get to the end of the day and I feel like I have not connected with or really ENJOYED a few of my children.I mean,I always connect with atleast a few of them and I ALWAYS enjoy ALL of them.I don't mean that they are a burden but sometimes life can get so busy that I don't REALLY enjoy them as I should.Especially the little boys.They bring such DELIGHT to my husband and I every day.They are so funny,cute and just PRECIOUS but somedays,it seems that I look at them at the end of the day and realize that other than chores and school they have just been off playing all day.I have taken care of them,schooled them,fed them,bathed them,brushed their teeth etc. etc. etc. but I have not really taken the time to just sit and read to them for a while or to play with them or to really talk to them and hear their thoughts......I HATE THAT!
I love them so much.......I look at them all and just feel like the richest woman in the world.Do you ever look at your children and your heart just literally flutters and you just feel like laughing out loud and dancing around the room because of the unbelievable PRECIOUSNESS??????
My 13 yo son is becoming such a man.It thrills my soul to think of the future with him.His dream is to just get a job with his Dad and stay back here on the farm with us for life drinking coffee and talking lol.He has plans to buy me alot of equipment for my garden/yard.A tractor and attachments.....He loves this farm though and at this point,just just dreams of growing up and working with his Dad.He doesn't want a wife........:):):):):)
My 11yo dd is such a beautiful young lady.She amazes me with her thoughtfulness and love.She is SO considerate of others.She is such an excellent help to me too.She LOVES her little boys :):).She is such a little Mamma to them and they love her.Even though her and her big brother can really pick on each other and provoke each other,she loves him dearly.She hates for him or anyone else to get in trouble.She wants to please us and the Lord and *sigh*,she DOES want a husband :):).
My 8yo dd is a little precious sweetheart.Wants to do everything the "big" children too.She is kind of right in the middle of "big children" and "little children" and goes back and forth between groups as she wants to lol.When it comes to staying up late she is a big child of course :).She is a huge help to me.She is just learning to do SO much!She LOVES to share her things.Always has.Both girls are absolutley in love with their Daddy :).He has two little princesses who love to get his coffee when he gets home.
My 6yo ds is such a sweet and gentle boy yet he can get hyper too,especially when his big brother has a hand in it :). He (6yo) loves his little brothers(AND BIG BROTHER).They are all such good friends.He and my 4yo are like twins.I can't imagine them being apart.He treats his BABY brothers (2yo and newborn) with SUCH care.He smiles and laughs at them like they are so little and he is so big.He is a Mamma's boy through and through.He also loves to go with his Daddy.He is so cute.He has a bashfulness about him that we all love.
My 4yo amazes us.How can they ALL be so different and special in their own ways.He is HILARIOUS.He really,really melts his Daddy and his Mamma :). He LOVES to go with his Dad every chance he can.Sometimes he has a hard time deciding though because he loves to stay with Mamma too :).He and his brothers are best friends.(Parents who chooses to only have 1-2 children are missing out on so much.They have no idea.) He delights ALL of his siblings with his cuteness and sweetness.
My 2yo lol.............LOL!!!!!!!! I LOVE 2yo's!!!!! See as I am typing this all out,every time I get to the next child I am overwhelmed with amazement that they are so cute,smart,sweet and just PRECIOUS! Every single one them amazes us.Our 2yo is a genious lol.We crack up laughing over him every.single.hour I think.Look how much laughter children bring! lol Anyhow,Isaac is still such a baby but is growing fast:).He loves his "tighty" (Titus) soooooooo much.Never one SECOND of jealousy.It is soooooo sweet.He loves to sleep with one hand on me and one on Titus' cheek.I know they will be great friends.
Titus......*sigh*.......I am so blessed to have been given another baby to go through all of these precious stages above! Right now he is just a precious ball of joy.He is smiling and cooing.......We all stare at him in amazement atleast several times a day lol.He could not be more loved!!!!!!! He has 9 people absolutely gushing over him every day.He is so soft and sweet.I am so blessed to have him.
It is such a blessing to be a woman.They Lord has given us so many JOYS as wives and mothers!!!!
My sister is visiting with me right now too and even though she is not my child I do have to comment about her because she is so amazing! I have no idea how I am going to do it without her when she goes home! :) She is happy,helpful and responsible.I literally have to almost never correct her.She loves the Lord and has a heart to please him.She loves her Mamma and Daddy and misses them very much but loves being her with all of her nieces and nephews! Mom and dad need to just move closer than 600 miles away!
I am strving to take time to connect with each one of my children EVERY.SINGLE.DAY. I know these days of having them here with me will fly by and I don't want to have regrets.I am so blessed.
LOVE YOUR CHILDREN today!!!!
It hit me the other day that some days I get to the end of the day and I feel like I have not connected with or really ENJOYED a few of my children.I mean,I always connect with atleast a few of them and I ALWAYS enjoy ALL of them.I don't mean that they are a burden but sometimes life can get so busy that I don't REALLY enjoy them as I should.Especially the little boys.They bring such DELIGHT to my husband and I every day.They are so funny,cute and just PRECIOUS but somedays,it seems that I look at them at the end of the day and realize that other than chores and school they have just been off playing all day.I have taken care of them,schooled them,fed them,bathed them,brushed their teeth etc. etc. etc. but I have not really taken the time to just sit and read to them for a while or to play with them or to really talk to them and hear their thoughts......I HATE THAT!
I love them so much.......I look at them all and just feel like the richest woman in the world.Do you ever look at your children and your heart just literally flutters and you just feel like laughing out loud and dancing around the room because of the unbelievable PRECIOUSNESS??????
My 13 yo son is becoming such a man.It thrills my soul to think of the future with him.His dream is to just get a job with his Dad and stay back here on the farm with us for life drinking coffee and talking lol.He has plans to buy me alot of equipment for my garden/yard.A tractor and attachments.....He loves this farm though and at this point,just just dreams of growing up and working with his Dad.He doesn't want a wife........:):):):):)
My 11yo dd is such a beautiful young lady.She amazes me with her thoughtfulness and love.She is SO considerate of others.She is such an excellent help to me too.She LOVES her little boys :):).She is such a little Mamma to them and they love her.Even though her and her big brother can really pick on each other and provoke each other,she loves him dearly.She hates for him or anyone else to get in trouble.She wants to please us and the Lord and *sigh*,she DOES want a husband :):).
My 8yo dd is a little precious sweetheart.Wants to do everything the "big" children too.She is kind of right in the middle of "big children" and "little children" and goes back and forth between groups as she wants to lol.When it comes to staying up late she is a big child of course :).She is a huge help to me.She is just learning to do SO much!She LOVES to share her things.Always has.Both girls are absolutley in love with their Daddy :).He has two little princesses who love to get his coffee when he gets home.
My 6yo ds is such a sweet and gentle boy yet he can get hyper too,especially when his big brother has a hand in it :). He (6yo) loves his little brothers(AND BIG BROTHER).They are all such good friends.He and my 4yo are like twins.I can't imagine them being apart.He treats his BABY brothers (2yo and newborn) with SUCH care.He smiles and laughs at them like they are so little and he is so big.He is a Mamma's boy through and through.He also loves to go with his Daddy.He is so cute.He has a bashfulness about him that we all love.
My 4yo amazes us.How can they ALL be so different and special in their own ways.He is HILARIOUS.He really,really melts his Daddy and his Mamma :). He LOVES to go with his Dad every chance he can.Sometimes he has a hard time deciding though because he loves to stay with Mamma too :).He and his brothers are best friends.(Parents who chooses to only have 1-2 children are missing out on so much.They have no idea.) He delights ALL of his siblings with his cuteness and sweetness.
My 2yo lol.............LOL!!!!!!!! I LOVE 2yo's!!!!! See as I am typing this all out,every time I get to the next child I am overwhelmed with amazement that they are so cute,smart,sweet and just PRECIOUS! Every single one them amazes us.Our 2yo is a genious lol.We crack up laughing over him every.single.hour I think.Look how much laughter children bring! lol Anyhow,Isaac is still such a baby but is growing fast:).He loves his "tighty" (Titus) soooooooo much.Never one SECOND of jealousy.It is soooooo sweet.He loves to sleep with one hand on me and one on Titus' cheek.I know they will be great friends.
Titus......*sigh*.......I am so blessed to have been given another baby to go through all of these precious stages above! Right now he is just a precious ball of joy.He is smiling and cooing.......We all stare at him in amazement atleast several times a day lol.He could not be more loved!!!!!!! He has 9 people absolutely gushing over him every day.He is so soft and sweet.I am so blessed to have him.
It is such a blessing to be a woman.They Lord has given us so many JOYS as wives and mothers!!!!
My sister is visiting with me right now too and even though she is not my child I do have to comment about her because she is so amazing! I have no idea how I am going to do it without her when she goes home! :) She is happy,helpful and responsible.I literally have to almost never correct her.She loves the Lord and has a heart to please him.She loves her Mamma and Daddy and misses them very much but loves being her with all of her nieces and nephews! Mom and dad need to just move closer than 600 miles away!
I am strving to take time to connect with each one of my children EVERY.SINGLE.DAY. I know these days of having them here with me will fly by and I don't want to have regrets.I am so blessed.
LOVE YOUR CHILDREN today!!!!
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